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NYC_SKP

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1. Over a period of years, I had to hire part time and then full time live-in help.

Fri Oct 3, 2014, 09:55 PM

Oct 2014

Driving privileges had to go, the helpers did the shopping, took them to appointments, etc.

This isn't an option for everyone, but their savings and retirement were able to cover the expenses.

But I, too, was called bad names, threatened, by my step-father but not my mom.

One of the first things I had to do, before they started getting too loopy, was create a family trust and obtain durable power of attorney to prevent them from making bad business deals, like giving away their car or getting into a sales contract.

Take care.

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Help [View all] Aerows Oct 2014 OP

Over a period of years, I had to hire part time and then full time live-in help. NYC_SKP Oct 2014 #1

I've been called every name in the book Aerows Oct 2014 #3

Start with boundaries. Hell Hath No Fury Oct 2014 #2

I'm not capable of a bunch of manual labor Aerows Oct 2014 #4

I completely understand. Hell Hath No Fury Oct 2014 #5

I've done the best I can Aerows Oct 2014 #6

There's a tendency for us to feel guilty, after years of wanting to be a good child, NYC_SKP Oct 2014 #7

I've always stepped up Aerows Oct 2014 #8

Getting screamed at and told Aerows Oct 2014 #9

Going it alone is triple hard. Thankfully, I have a local God sister. NYC_SKP Oct 2014 #11

I'm having a rough time Aerows Oct 2014 #12

I'm okay with going up on ladders Aerows Oct 2014 #10

How is it going, Aerows? Habibi Oct 2014 #13

Better, I guess Aerows Oct 2014 #14

Well, as someone on the other thread pointed out, Habibi Oct 2014 #15

I used the word NO. Aerows Oct 2014 #17

I effectively used the word "NO" Aerows Oct 2014 #16