trying to help/deal with, my almost 99 YO father...

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16. Hang in there 🙂

That is a tough situation to be in. I am very familiar with it. You have my respect.

Having cared for my mom during the last two yrs of her life and after she passed at 56 yrs old in 2004 I transitioned right into caring for my grandmother until she passed in 2015 she was 88. Being a caregiver to elderly family members is a tough thing to do alone.

Check with the state to see what programs they might have to help with support. Towards the end of my grandmothers life I simply could not provide the care/attention she needed on my own and remain employed. She had contracted MRSA and had to have a leg removed so she needed around the clock attention. Luckily here in Az there was a state program called ABIL (Az Bridge to Independent Living) that provided a nurse during the day for a few hours while I was at work. So the nurse had the day shift and I had the night shift basically. At first my grandmother was not interested in the program at all and was mad that I could not do it all...that was where Adult Protective Services came in very handy. They told her she needed to do the program or she would have to go to an assisted living place. Check with Adult Protective Services to see what your state might have.

Another very good resource is Hospice. They are not only support of end of life situations. Call them and find out what they might have.

As I said hang in there and take it one day...sometimes one minute at a time and don't forget about you. It is very easy to lose sight of yourself when you have take on so much for others, it can get overwhelming quickly. There is only so much you can do and control. Don't worry about things you can do nothing about. Take care of your self. I wish you the very best. 🙂