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Elder-caregivers

Hell Hath No Fury

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5. I completely understand.

Reply to Aerows (Reply #4)

Fri Oct 3, 2014, 10:13 PM

Oct 2014

I grew up in a household full of women, and SOMEone had to learn to do the repairs around the house. I have spent 20+ years caring for my Mom's house, and every visit there is a "to do" list. I have been preparing my Mom's house for sale and doing insane things, like ripping out and renovating her bathroom. Did I mention that I am 54?

It finally dawned on me that I simply cannot not continue along this path -- my health, both physical and mental, will not allow it. So, it is time to bring in the handymen, even though money is seriously tight. It took a 1000 pound load off me.

Time for you to bring on the pros whenever you can.

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Help [View all] Aerows Oct 2014 OP

Over a period of years, I had to hire part time and then full time live-in help. NYC_SKP Oct 2014 #1

I've been called every name in the book Aerows Oct 2014 #3

Start with boundaries. Hell Hath No Fury Oct 2014 #2

I'm not capable of a bunch of manual labor Aerows Oct 2014 #4

I completely understand. Hell Hath No Fury Oct 2014 #5

I've done the best I can Aerows Oct 2014 #6

There's a tendency for us to feel guilty, after years of wanting to be a good child, NYC_SKP Oct 2014 #7

I've always stepped up Aerows Oct 2014 #8

Getting screamed at and told Aerows Oct 2014 #9

Going it alone is triple hard. Thankfully, I have a local God sister. NYC_SKP Oct 2014 #11

I'm having a rough time Aerows Oct 2014 #12

I'm okay with going up on ladders Aerows Oct 2014 #10

How is it going, Aerows? Habibi Oct 2014 #13

Better, I guess Aerows Oct 2014 #14

Well, as someone on the other thread pointed out, Habibi Oct 2014 #15

I used the word NO. Aerows Oct 2014 #17

I effectively used the word "NO" Aerows Oct 2014 #16

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