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left-of-center2012

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Sun Aug 14, 2016, 06:50 PM Aug 2016

The cost of being a loner [View all]

After a divorce 25 years ago; after three different friends over time borrowed several hundred dollars and none of them attempted to repay me; I just withdrew into myself.

Thinking I’m going to end up getting hurt or used, so why extend the effort to form friendships, relationships.
And I became a recluse, hermit, loner.

I live in a one bedroom apartment, in the city. I pretty much stay home except to go grocery shopping; and increasingly to the doctors and pharmacies.
I’m 70 now. Disabled. Walk short distances with a cane. Use Uber to get about.

Haven’t needed, wanted friends. No one close.

And now my doctor wants me to have a medical exam where I’ll be sedated for about three hours.
I must have someone drive me to the exam; wait for me; and drive me home.

I have no one who(m) I can ask to drive me and wait.

I can’t arrive in a cab, or Uber, or bus. The doc insists on me having someone drive me, and who will wait. Fo insurance reasons, they can’t risk me trying to get home alone in a cab, etc and possibly falling, etc as I’ll be recovering from the anesthesia.

I’ve asked a couple people I don’t really know if they would do it for money;
and hopefully one will do it for $50.

The cost of being a ‘loner’.

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The cost of being a loner [View all] left-of-center2012 Aug 2016 OP
It is a cost teach1st Aug 2016 #1
You live in a city Warpy Aug 2016 #2
my best and pretty much only friend and i are both rather reclusive. dembotoz Aug 2016 #3
"I do not think my remaining friend would want a service" left-of-center2012 Aug 2016 #4
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