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Atheists & Agnostics

progressoid

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18. Ugh, that's no fun.

Reply to Holly_Hobby (Original post)

Thu Dec 17, 2015, 02:11 PM

Dec 2015

I know the feeling. I'm currently stuck in the middle of a silent feud within my wife's family. There isn't much chance of a happy solution. And a death often makes it worse.

My name is often misspelled. I can deal with that. But wanting money for the church is kind of weird. Did you know they were going to do that?

Like others have said, I'd leave it up to your husband. It's his blood. Regardless of the outcome, don't let them get you down. Life's too short to be mired in their pettiness.

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Respectfully requesting advice about a funeral [View all] Holly_Hobby Dec 2015 OP

The choice should be your husband's. Hoppy Dec 2015 #1

Agreed, but Holly_Hobby Dec 2015 #4

There's your opinion. (nt) jeff47 Dec 2015 #13

Then tell him that. cleanhippie Dec 2015 #15

Helping to pay for the church Turbineguy Dec 2015 #2

Very valid point. +1 cleanhippie Dec 2015 #16

I'm curious as to how you felt publicly humiliated because your name was spelled wrong? Scuba Dec 2015 #3

It's disrespectful Holly_Hobby Dec 2015 #5

Perhaps disrespectful to ignore your corrections, but one can only humiliate oneself. Scuba Dec 2015 #6

I see your point and understand Holly_Hobby Dec 2015 #20

I understand what you mean. Mariana Dec 2015 #27

Personally, I'd go with angry. SusanCalvin Dec 2015 #31

My wife's brother refused to spell her name right OriginalGeek Dec 2015 #36

Thanks for the good advice Holly_Hobby Dec 2015 #37

That's really up to your husband. beam me up scottie Dec 2015 #7

My husband doesn't ask my opinion because he knows what I'd say.. mountain grammy Dec 2015 #8

If he wants your opinion, you should give it to him. trotsky Dec 2015 #9

so, the non-religious service is complete? RussBLib Dec 2015 #10

He died in California, where he's lived for the past 50 years Holly_Hobby Dec 2015 #22

Yep, if he really wants your opinion... onager Dec 2015 #11

My husband's will is very specific Holly_Hobby Dec 2015 #23

The two cents from someone who disrespects religion (me): pay the $135. Yorktown Dec 2015 #12

Not a mistake Holly_Hobby Dec 2015 #24

I'd tell 'em to pound fucking sand. Iggo Dec 2015 #14

Agree that the decision is your husband's to make. PassingFair Dec 2015 #17

Ugh, that's no fun. progressoid Dec 2015 #18

Hell no he wasn't told it was going to cost Holly_Hobby Dec 2015 #25

Oh, wow. Mariana Dec 2015 #28

If you were a newlywed, or in the family for a short time, I would amuse bouche Dec 2015 #19

"...tell them I would pray on it..." Iggo Dec 2015 #21

LOL n/t Holly_Hobby Dec 2015 #26

My feelings -- and let it be known, I'm an only child and don't go for this "sibling"bullshit Heddi Dec 2015 #29

In reading through all the posts, Curmudgeoness Dec 2015 #30

I gotta disagree about the amount mattering. SusanCalvin Dec 2015 #32

The point is Curmudgeoness Dec 2015 #33

Didn't say I would or wouldn't walk away. SusanCalvin Dec 2015 #34

The most irritating thing to do to Christians is to be impeccable and kind to them Freelancer Dec 2015 #35