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onager

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11. Yep, if he really wants your opinion...

Reply to Holly_Hobby (Original post)

Thu Dec 17, 2015, 09:44 AM

Dec 2015

Give it to him, as several others have said.

I know nothing of your personal situation. But when my Fundie relatives ask for my opinion, there's usually an unspoken condition: "...as long as it agrees with mine." Which it seldom does. Hope your husband isn't like that.

In fact, I've decided I must outlive all those Fundie relatives. Otherwise they'll Jesus-Up my funeral something fierce. Not that I will care in my post-death condition, but it's annoying to even think about.

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Respectfully requesting advice about a funeral [View all] Holly_Hobby Dec 2015 OP

The choice should be your husband's. Hoppy Dec 2015 #1

Agreed, but Holly_Hobby Dec 2015 #4

There's your opinion. (nt) jeff47 Dec 2015 #13

Then tell him that. cleanhippie Dec 2015 #15

Helping to pay for the church Turbineguy Dec 2015 #2

Very valid point. +1 cleanhippie Dec 2015 #16

I'm curious as to how you felt publicly humiliated because your name was spelled wrong? Scuba Dec 2015 #3

It's disrespectful Holly_Hobby Dec 2015 #5

Perhaps disrespectful to ignore your corrections, but one can only humiliate oneself. Scuba Dec 2015 #6

I see your point and understand Holly_Hobby Dec 2015 #20

I understand what you mean. Mariana Dec 2015 #27

Personally, I'd go with angry. SusanCalvin Dec 2015 #31

My wife's brother refused to spell her name right OriginalGeek Dec 2015 #36

Thanks for the good advice Holly_Hobby Dec 2015 #37

That's really up to your husband. beam me up scottie Dec 2015 #7

My husband doesn't ask my opinion because he knows what I'd say.. mountain grammy Dec 2015 #8

If he wants your opinion, you should give it to him. trotsky Dec 2015 #9

so, the non-religious service is complete? RussBLib Dec 2015 #10

He died in California, where he's lived for the past 50 years Holly_Hobby Dec 2015 #22

Yep, if he really wants your opinion... onager Dec 2015 #11

My husband's will is very specific Holly_Hobby Dec 2015 #23

The two cents from someone who disrespects religion (me): pay the $135. Yorktown Dec 2015 #12

Not a mistake Holly_Hobby Dec 2015 #24

I'd tell 'em to pound fucking sand. Iggo Dec 2015 #14

Agree that the decision is your husband's to make. PassingFair Dec 2015 #17

Ugh, that's no fun. progressoid Dec 2015 #18

Hell no he wasn't told it was going to cost Holly_Hobby Dec 2015 #25

Oh, wow. Mariana Dec 2015 #28

If you were a newlywed, or in the family for a short time, I would amuse bouche Dec 2015 #19

"...tell them I would pray on it..." Iggo Dec 2015 #21

LOL n/t Holly_Hobby Dec 2015 #26

My feelings -- and let it be known, I'm an only child and don't go for this "sibling"bullshit Heddi Dec 2015 #29

In reading through all the posts, Curmudgeoness Dec 2015 #30

I gotta disagree about the amount mattering. SusanCalvin Dec 2015 #32

The point is Curmudgeoness Dec 2015 #33

Didn't say I would or wouldn't walk away. SusanCalvin Dec 2015 #34

The most irritating thing to do to Christians is to be impeccable and kind to them Freelancer Dec 2015 #35