Respectfully requesting advice about a funeral

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My husband's brother died, he wasn't a believer. Neither my husband or myself are believers, along with 4 of his siblings.

This brother died 3,000 miles from us, and none of us went to his non-religious service, however, the 3 extremely religious siblings rented a church with A/V equipment so we could watch on Ustream.

We've been married for 30 years and lived in the same place as the 3 extremely religious siblings. They misspelled my name in the obituary, which resulted in public humiliation for me. My phone didn't stop ringing all day when it was published - friends, my family, co-workers and even former co-workers called me to ask what kind of family misspells their sister-in-law's name after 30 years of marriage. It was a valid question.

Now, these 3 religious siblings are asking us for $135 to pay for our portion of the church rental.

First of all, I know from 14 years of weekly Sunday School, that Jesus allegedly said you don't need a church. I looked it up, it's Matthew 18:20 - it says wherever 2 or 3 of you meet, he is in the midst of them. My husband offered his brand-new union hall for free, but no, it had to be in a church. I guess the brick and mortar of a church posses special magic and a union hall doesn't?

Here's my question that I'd like your wise advice on:

Do we take a stand and not pay for the church rental? I guarantee you, it will split up the family. Do I personally care? No. However, it's not my family, it's my husband's family. But I am done with these ignorant idiots.