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Rorey

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34. Your OP inspired me to put some effort into getting past my lingering hate

Sat Apr 17, 2021, 09:13 PM

Apr 2021

I've actually been doing a lot better lately, and have stopped ruminating, but I want to get to a point where I really don't think at all about the objects of my disdain.

A couple of the tools that I've been using for the last couple of years to deal with the betrayal that triggered my hate are journaling and a zillion helpful videos on that one video site. This afternoon, since you first posted this, I checked out a couple of "how to stop hating someone" videos, and, as usual, they helped.

So thank you for giving me a little nudge with your post. I had sort of been taking a break from healing from my hate, and it's time to finish my recovery.

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I see posts from ppl that HATE 45 [View all] alittlelark Apr 2021 OP

I am sorry, but in no way, no shape, nothing on earth can make me just 'pity' the man... SWBTATTReg Apr 2021 #1

He does not behave as a Homo sapien sapien would. alittlelark Apr 2021 #3

I've said my piece. And I respect yours a lot too. He had amply opportunities to rise above SWBTATTReg Apr 2021 #21

Sociology is VERY sadly ignored alittlelark Apr 2021 #25

Hate takes too much energy. Ocelot II Apr 2021 #2

He does not understand JOY alittlelark Apr 2021 #5

I disagree. Hating him feels okay. LakeArenal Apr 2021 #30

Find a way to shift that energy alittlelark Apr 2021 #31

Okay I'm going to stop now because I don't expend any energy on trump. LakeArenal Apr 2021 #38

It's a difficult thing to control Rorey Apr 2021 #4

I fully understand alittlelark Apr 2021 #6

OK. I'll modify my previous position. I will piss on him if he catches fire. Midnight Writer Apr 2021 #7

Turn your hate to pity and u will kill him alittlelark Apr 2021 #9

I STILL can't eat mushrooms Rorey Apr 2021 #11

Gonna b honest and say I dont like mushroom either alittlelark Apr 2021 #28

I used to love them Rorey Apr 2021 #33

He is a dogshit basket of damaged goods alittlelark Apr 2021 #13

He reminds me so much of my father. LiberalLoner Apr 2021 #8

I have the same relationship w/ my mother alittlelark Apr 2021 #10

I knew it!! LakeArenal Apr 2021 #24

I'm so sorry. You totally aren't possessed by demons though, I can tell. 😍🌹 LiberalLoner Apr 2021 #27

I have a mother like that, too. murielm99 May 2021 #50

"Remember others may hate you, but they don't win until you hate them Walleye Apr 2021 #12

I had never heard that until now alittlelark Apr 2021 #15

That last speech to his staff was profound. He showed his heart for the first time Walleye Apr 2021 #17

Hate has a purpose I_UndergroundPanther Apr 2021 #14

The Power of the emotion is what I am addressing alittlelark Apr 2021 #19

I have said that I HATE him for BigmanPigman Apr 2021 #16

I do know hate. I have felt it so strongly that I had to disconnect from the world alittlelark Apr 2021 #20

You mean this creepy asshole? Blue Owl Apr 2021 #18

Yes. Pity his soul alittlelark Apr 2021 #23

No pity for him. Depraved destroyer of everything. LakeArenal Apr 2021 #22

Do not give him energy with HATE alittlelark Apr 2021 #26

I used to think that. But he's an exception. LakeArenal Apr 2021 #29

i Think that is how he WINS alittlelark Apr 2021 #32

Now that's it. You mean I am ignoring reality. LakeArenal Apr 2021 #39

Interesting discussion. Totally agree that many ignored Laura PourMeADrink Apr 2021 #40

Your OP inspired me to put some effort into getting past my lingering hate Rorey Apr 2021 #34

Recovery from narcissistic abuse can take a lifetime. alittlelark Apr 2021 #35

I've been studying narcissism a lot Rorey Apr 2021 #36

My guess is u r an HSP alittlelark Apr 2021 #42

I'm not sure about that Rorey Apr 2021 #43

HSP's r not overly sensitive alittlelark Apr 2021 #44

I'd like to think I'm normal Rorey Apr 2021 #45

If U feel DEEPLY - it sux alittlelark Apr 2021 #46

Nope. It ain't working. Patterson Apr 2021 #37

LOL !! I understand fully ! I keep trying though alittlelark Apr 2021 #41

What does 45 think of me? pwb Apr 2021 #47

U r the shit he stepped in on the golf course alittlelark Apr 2021 #48

OMG Jjust reslized I am replying to myself alittlelark Apr 2021 #49