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Silver Gaia

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19. Thank you for this post, Dr. Shepper.

Sat Dec 13, 2025, 07:35 AM

Dec 13

Your words were soothing to read, and held much good advice. I need to do as you've suggested. I will start focusing on memories and collecting things of hers.She was also a border collie and was my deep heart dog. Like your border collie, she was in an unfixable situation, and was in terrible pain. She tried to hide it, but that was her nature. The pain in her eyes was impossible to miss. We did the best we could. I just wish we had not let her be taken from uscso immediately. With our other pets who passed, it was a comfort to be able to have time to say goodbye and process the death while we prepared a burial ceremony. I am missing that, and regret it. But I am too sick to dig a grave. I only wish I had thought to ask for help with that.

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Anybody here tonight? We lost our sweet baby girl dog on Wednesday. [View all] Silver Gaia Dec 13 OP

Hugs to you. Duncanpup Dec 13 #1

Thank you for the hugs. Silver Gaia Dec 13 #2

I'm here for you, Gaia SheltieLover Dec 13 #3

Thank you so much, Sheltie! Silver Gaia Dec 13 #15

So happy to have been able to ease your suffering a bit, Gaia SheltieLover Dec 13 #26

So sorry I hope you get this resolved and possibly get another pet friend. I know it's impossible to Replace loved one Walleye Dec 13 #4

Thank you for your kind words. Silver Gaia Dec 13 #16

I'm sorry you have lost your girl Dr. Shepper Dec 13 #5

Thank you for this post, Dr. Shepper. Silver Gaia Dec 13 #19

Call your vet & get her body back SheltieLover Dec 13 #27

By the time I realized I didn't want to do it, Silver Gaia Thursday #77

I'm so glad it all worked out & that you feel connected again. SheltieLover Thursday #81

Hugs EverHopeful Dec 13 #6

Thank you, EverHopeful. Silver Gaia Dec 13 #20

My husband's cat (his bestie next to me) tavernier Dec 13 #7

Thank you for sharing your story, tavernier. Silver Gaia Dec 13 #21

so very sorry, Silver Gaia Skittles Dec 13 #8

Thank you for sharing the poem, Skittles. Silver Gaia Dec 13 #22

i am so sorry you're going through this. orleans Dec 13 #9

Thank you, orleans. Silver Gaia Dec 14 #44

Just woke up and saw this and I cannnot express how much I do feel for you. All here have undoubtedly hlthe2b Dec 13 #10

Yes, Fionna was the puppy who healed the hole in my heart Silver Gaia Dec 14 #45

So very sorry, Gaia gademocrat7 Dec 13 #11

Thank you, gademocrat7. Silver Gaia Dec 14 #46

I'm so sorry for your loss. iemanja Dec 13 #12

Yes, I will begin planning this tomorrow. Silver Gaia Dec 14 #47

Very sorry for your loss Deminpenn Dec 13 #13

Thank you for sharing your experiences, Deminpenn. Silver Gaia Dec 14 #48

Sadly, there's not much you can do to change the outcome. It's the cycle of life. Time will make it easier to bear, Vinca Dec 13 #14

Thank you, Vinca. Silver Gaia Dec 14 #49

We lost our Pheobe a year and a half ago..... frogstar0 Dec 13 #17

I'm so sorry I made you cry! But your words brought tears back to my eyes as well. Silver Gaia Dec 14 #50

Lost your dog lhatcher2 Dec 13 #18

Welcome to DU LetMyPeopleVote Dec 13 #36

Welcome to DU. It's nice to see you here, filled with compassion. NNadir Dec 13 #38

what a lovely first post Skittles Dec 13 #41

I am honored that you chose this to be your very fist post on DU. Silver Gaia Dec 14 #43

So sorry for your loss, Gaia paxmoki Dec 13 #23

Thank you for your kindness, paxmoki. Silver Gaia Dec 14 #51

I'm so sorry. I know how you feel. ... littlemissmartypants Dec 13 #24

Thank you. I am so sorry that you are grieving, too. Silver Gaia Dec 14 #52

Thank you all so very, very much. Silver Gaia Dec 13 #25

Hope you get a good sleep. 70sEraVet Dec 13 #29

I did sleep eventually. It was deep and long. Silver Gaia Dec 14 #53

Sending loving kindness and compassion to you LatteLady Dec 13 #28

Thank you so much for your sweet, caring words. Silver Gaia Dec 14 #54

condolences pfitz59 Dec 13 #30

Yes, they are. Very much so. Silver Gaia Dec 14 #55

Hugs I'm so sorry for your loss. I have never waited more than 7 days for the return of ashes. I prefer cremation sinkingfeeling Dec 13 #31

Thank you for the hugs. Silver Gaia Dec 14 #56

This happened to me years ago, but I know my little doggie was with me in spirit by my side. Irish_Dem Dec 13 #32

After reading all these kind words last night, Silver Gaia Dec 14 #57

Yes mine never leave home either. Irish_Dem Dec 14 #65

The return of her ashes did help. Silver Gaia Thursday #78

Excellent. The connection is back. Irish_Dem Thursday #80

Lady of the Beasts, please take Your little Fionna gently home in Your niyad Dec 13 #33

So Mote It Be. Silver Gaia Dec 14 #58

It is very hard to say goodbye to a family member LetMyPeopleVote Dec 13 #34

Indeed, it is. Thank you. Silver Gaia Dec 14 #59

You didn't let her down. You did the right thing. She is in no pain and is not suffering. Botany Dec 13 #35

Thank you, Botany. Silver Gaia Dec 14 #60

So sorry for your loss. applegrove Dec 13 #37

Thank you, applegrove. Silver Gaia Dec 14 #61

Care for the living Dear_Prudence Dec 13 #39

I am so sorry for your loss as well. Silver Gaia Dec 14 #62

You lost a dear family member and I'm so sorry for your loss berniesandersmittens Dec 13 #40

Thank you so very much! Silver Gaia Dec 14 #63

My Deepest Thanks to All of You Who Posted Here Last Night Silver Gaia Dec 14 #42

Oh what a sweet gorgeous fluff ball Dr. Shepper Dec 14 #66

She was definitely a sweet gorgeous fluffball. Thank you. Silver Gaia Dec 14 #71

So sorry for your unbearable loss montanacowboy Dec 14 #64

Thank you so much, montanacowboy. Silver Gaia Monday #72

In our family, we have chosen to call that most difficult decision "liberating the spirit." 3catwoman3 Dec 14 #67

It helped to remember that. Silver Gaia Thursday #73

I am so, so sorry for your loss. Trueblue Texan Dec 14 #68

Thank you so much, Trueblue Texan. Silver Gaia Thursday #74

You did not let your dog down - she was clearly loved right up to the end. waterwatcher123 Dec 14 #69

Thank you, waterwatcher123. Silver Gaia Thursday #75

Dear Silver Gaia, I am so sorry for your loss. MIButterfly Dec 14 #70

Your kind and thoughtful words helped, MIButterfly. Silver Gaia Thursday #76

UPDATE: My deepest thanks to all of you who responded to my plea for help. Silver Gaia Thursday #79