Couple thoughts,

[Bristlecone]

4. I agree with the others here. My experience is this:

Getting sober and eventually clear-headed led me to realize that my behavior was a problem (and sometimes still is even sober). If I am out of line, I try to make it right as soon as possible. I apologize or I try to do something “right” to counter my wrong.

But I also have to realize that people may wrong me, or hurt my feelings. But rather than act out(which puts me into the shit with them and creates a shit circle - just like drinking, drugging, etc), I tell them so and let them clean up their own mess. And not in a condescending or preachy way if I can help it.

I keep my side of the street as clean as possible and encourage and hope others do the same.

Doesn’t always work out, but it does mostly.

You don’t owe anyone an explanation about your sobriety. If you feel bad about what you said and as you say “ it was out of bounds,” tell your friend so and they will probably respect you for it and see that your sobriety gave you strength. Cause the old you probably would have not had that courage. They also will likely not make you feel that way again around the topic.

My 2 cents. Congrats on a year. It gets better every day