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lumberjack_jeff

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14. Heh. I don't think so.

Thu Apr 18, 2013, 03:31 PM

Apr 2013

My story: After working in a variety of careers for about 20 years, my youngest child was diagnosed with Autism. This, combined with a layoff, made us decide that it would be best if I stayed home with him.

Fast forward 10 years. My eldest child is engaged to be married and having trouble finding and holding work. He tells his fiancee that he plans to stay home like dad did.

It wasn't well received.

Every kid wants to find an angle that allows a high-bling lifestyle without stress or work, and from the outside looking in, stay at home parenting looks like a pretty good gig.

My advice? Teach her to do the dishes and laundry. Being a scientist will look better and better by comparison.

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Did we raise a sexist daughter? [View all] RiffRandell Apr 2013 OP

i have stayed at home. raised my family. taken care of our home environment. seabeyond Apr 2013 #1

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How is it sad? RiffRandell Apr 2013 #5

Patriarchy has no bearing on this whatsoever. In my experience, a stay-at-home mother pacalo Apr 2013 #49

Thank you pacalo. RiffRandell Apr 2013 #54

No problem, Riff. pacalo Apr 2013 #60

Just wanted to say... Behind the Aegis Apr 2013 #61

I think the same about you, BtA. pacalo Apr 2013 #62

I read everything else so came here to look at chatter, have to give you something snooper2 Apr 2013 #63

I know, right? opiate69 Apr 2013 #65

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Right now, her perceptions of motherhood, and of women in general, are all centered Aristus Apr 2013 #2

I feel the same way. RiffRandell Apr 2013 #6

Hey! Aristus Apr 2013 #10

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Tell me about it. RiffRandell Apr 2013 #9

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That is bad parenting. RiffRandell Apr 2013 #23

Nice post. nt Bonobo Apr 2013 #66

One of the problems I had with Southern authority RiffRandell Apr 2013 #38

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She is young libodem Apr 2013 #7

Thanks. RiffRandell Apr 2013 #19

She's only 7. HappyMe Apr 2013 #8

Thanks! RiffRandell Apr 2013 #20

Heh. I don't think so. lumberjack_jeff Apr 2013 #14

Funny! RiffRandell Apr 2013 #21

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I'm not agreeing with Warren just to agree with Warren RiffRandell Apr 2013 #22

I'm also interested in what the 'teaching moment' is. HappyMe Apr 2013 #25

Thanks HappyMe. RiffRandell Apr 2013 #26

As are you. HappyMe Apr 2013 #27

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Ah! Of course. HappyMe Apr 2013 #32

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Oh yeah! HappyMe Apr 2013 #34

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No. Sissyk Apr 2013 #16

Thanks...that's really nice. RiffRandell Apr 2013 #24

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Ah, that one. RiffRandell Apr 2013 #36

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Are you implying that a stay at home mother isn't a meaningful job? RiffRandell Apr 2013 #39

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Wow. RiffRandell Apr 2013 #42

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You brought up meaningful careers. RiffRandell Apr 2013 #44

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If you knew me in RL you would find out pretty damn quick I don't RiffRandell Apr 2013 #53

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I'm not advocating for you to be blocked nor do I believe you will. RiffRandell Apr 2013 #59

I think you are doing a wonderful job. Your answers were spot_on. In_The_Wind Apr 2013 #40

I tend not to filter my behavior through some sort of patriarchal conspiracy theorists' mindset Major Nikon Apr 2013 #45