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redqueen

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25. What blame are you talking about?

Reply to 4th law of robotics (Reply #24)

Tue Aug 21, 2012, 12:05 PM

Aug 2012

For a misunderstanding? I don't even know if it was one. She knew he was married and threw herself at him, that is scummy behavior, so obviously if that's the "blame" you're looking for, there it is. It's on her. There. Happy?

You really ought to consider that not all situations lend themselves to neat little 'one person gets all the blame' conclusions.

Also just to help you out, the issue of patriarchy and blaming it is not about individuals. It's a macro level concept.

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