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Bonobo

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Wed Aug 15, 2012, 12:29 AM Aug 2012

Last night I walked a drunk girl home... [View all]

This will sound sort of like a Penthouse letter, but it really happened last night.
I was throwing out the garbage and about to walk back in the house when a drunk girl comes stumbling down our alley -she was weaving back and forth a lot. There had been a festival that night with lots of drinking.
We live on a small island and the "streets" are more like very narrow alleys.
Anyway, I asked her if she was okay and she said not really. I think it was her that asked if I could walk her home.

She was so drunk that she really needed some support, so I took her by the hand and walked her back to her house about 3/4 of a mile away. On the way, she was upset about something, apologizing for making me go to the trouble, saying how nice I was, on and on...like a drunk-ish person.
On the 20 min. walk, we talked -where she was from, etc. I got her name, she asked what I was doing on this little island, etc.

Halfway there, she said she needed to take a break, so asked if I would sit and have a cigarette with her. I found a nearby bench and we sat --it turned out she didn't even have cigarettes so it made it pretty obvious she was hitting me, especially after we sat down and she put her head against me and sort of leaned over close to my lap and looked up at me. She was upset about something to do with how her sister was cuter than her... kind of insecure and crying a lot. I comforted her by telling her that she was attractive and that we all have our little insecurities, etc. --AND I IGNORED her clear attempts to offer herself up to me. She was 33 and I am 46 and I would be lying if I didn't say I was tempted. She was tall and slim and looking pretty good I must say.

Anyway, I walked her back to her house and she hugged me several times and then surprised me with a kiss right on the mouth. Wow. I gotta say it has been a while since I had something dropped in my lap like that... but I totally resisted the temptation and left her at the doorstep and walked home like a champ and a gentlemen having done the right thing by doing nothing. Also, I left her feeling better and did my best to cheer her up. I was warm and kind and did all the right things.

My head was up high and I was proud of myself. Had great sex with the wife after I got home (as we often do) but I have to still admit that I wish I could have cloned myself and let my bad self do what IT wanted to do while my good self did what I wound up doing.

It was such an unusual experience on this little island for me, a 46 year old short guy who hasn't exactly felt very sexy since I put on 20 pounds in the last 3 years. But I wanted to share here, in a way to say to the lurking women folk, we're not all rapists and yes, sometimes we DO do the right thing (in fact, maybe MOST of us do, who knows?)

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It doesn't make you special, SnohoDem Aug 2012 #1
I'm curious... redqueen Aug 2012 #2
She needed my hand to walk. Bonobo Aug 2012 #3
You are a man, ergo, you're doing it wrong. Warren DeMontague Aug 2012 #9
If she were in fact a drunk man in need, you presumably wouldn't have taken his hand ProudToBeBlueInRhody Aug 2012 #14
I would have held his arm for certain. Bonobo Aug 2012 #15
Interesting ProudToBeBlueInRhody Aug 2012 #16
With the upper arm... Bonobo Aug 2012 #17
Yeah.... ProudToBeBlueInRhody Aug 2012 #18
While lacking sufficient depth... discntnt_irny_srcsm Aug 2012 #19
So you're saying he asked for it? 4th law of robotics Aug 2012 #20
No, I was inquiring as to whether boundaries were ignored, redqueen Aug 2012 #21
So you have to verbally establish boundaries first 4th law of robotics Aug 2012 #22
If a man approaches me in a dark alley at night... after a festival with lots of drinking... redqueen Aug 2012 #23
I'm just curious how you blame men for this 4th law of robotics Aug 2012 #24
What blame are you talking about? redqueen Aug 2012 #25
You asked if: 4th law of robotics Aug 2012 #26
LOL redqueen Aug 2012 #28
Well I suppose if it weren't for double standards 4th law of robotics Aug 2012 #32
when i run up to the store, a 5 minute run, i let hubby know i am taking off seabeyond Aug 2012 #27
Ah good 4th law of robotics Aug 2012 #29
Who said scumbag? Only you. redqueen Aug 2012 #30
then you are not looking for discussion. choose to put words out that were not said. seabeyond Aug 2012 #31
Just looking for a confirmation 4th law of robotics Aug 2012 #33
you were wrong. but.... cause i am so fair and balanced seabeyond Aug 2012 #34
So . . . you convinced your husband 4th law of robotics Aug 2012 #35
i will speak for hubby again. he would not be so thrilled for you to create him as the seabeyond Aug 2012 #36
But that's exactly what you described 4th law of robotics Aug 2012 #37
no, it is not at all what i described. but, i am done playing. like he gave me a perspective seabeyond Aug 2012 #38
You both got new perspectives 4th law of robotics Aug 2012 #39
lordy you just want to diss the hubby dont you. totally offensive. i changed my opinion seabeyond Aug 2012 #40
If you're coming across in a certain way 4th law of robotics Aug 2012 #41
You're braver than I am Major Nikon Aug 2012 #4
You would laugh if you knew where I lived. Bonobo Aug 2012 #5
I'm guessing not so much a drug problem either Major Nikon Aug 2012 #6
Correct. No chance. nt Bonobo Aug 2012 #7
Things are just different here these days Major Nikon Aug 2012 #8
I too live on a tiny island without traffic lights. ZenLefty Aug 2012 #10
Really? Now I'm, curious! Bonobo Aug 2012 #11
Orcas Island, Washington ZenLefty Aug 2012 #12
Come here next year with the other Orcas Islanders. Bonobo Aug 2012 #13
Guys tend to walk into temptation, like accepting a dare. lumberjack_jeff Aug 2012 #42
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