Relations with the ex-wife

[HappyMe]

4. There isn't any easy answer.

It sounds like the arrangement you have now is working fine. I wouldn't rush back into a living together situation.

My divorce was amicable, but not that amicable. I was glad to be rid of all of the hassle. He got remarried 2 months later. For me, after all the stress was over, and that intoxicating breath of freedom was gone - I was alone. That is scary. I wasn't a fresh young chickie ready to date. I was afraid to get out there, get involved again. Basically, I was toast. When I was ready, I met someone and we fell in love. We have been together 3+ years. I'm happy as hell.
It wasn't always easy with my current love. When we first moved in together, his ex would call every damn day. For awhile I was cool with this. It got old. I kind of wondered -geez, what is going on here. I finally talked with him and asked if I should just bow out. I told him that I felt like there were 3 people in this relationship. I don't mind the occasional call, but this was too much. Long, boring story short - the calls stopped.

I thought I had a point when I started this. I don't know what anyone will get out of this but there it is.