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XanaDUer2

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60. You did nothing

Mon Sep 23, 2024, 09:58 AM

Sep 2024

I'm being abused now by "loved ones" that I'm a baby bc I'm upset about how I'm being treated. That i need to grow up etc. Feelings constantly invalidated. Just like your going through now. Its gaslighting bullshit.

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I am tired. took Rich back to the hospital as he was vomiting and urinating blood on Wednesday. They said he would have [View all] debm55 Sep 2024 OP

Very sorry, deb. elleng Sep 2024 #1

I'm sorry XanaDUer2 Sep 2024 #2

I posted a message on your thread. debm55 Sep 2024 #6

(HUGS) XanaDUer2 Sep 2024 #40

{{{Deb}}}I'm so sorry you and Rich are going through this. 50 Shades Of Blue Sep 2024 #3

They sound cold. Sanity Claws Sep 2024 #4

Sometimes "family" is not all that ... TBF Sep 2024 #5

I'm sorry you're going through these problems, Deb! Different Drummer Sep 2024 #7

So sorry for you & hubby, Deb SheltieLover Sep 2024 #8

I am so sorry, Debm. sheshe2 Sep 2024 #9

I am so sorry you're going through this. TommieMommy Sep 2024 #10

Sending you both so much love and support FirstLight Sep 2024 #11

Damn!!! All you can do is hang in there, baby !!!! Karadeniz Sep 2024 #12

Admitting abuse takes tremendous courage; it is NOT your fault. The abusers are the broken Ziggysmom Sep 2024 #13

I'm so sorry to hear this, Deb Diamond_Dog Sep 2024 #14

I'm am so sorry Katcat Sep 2024 #15

You didn't do anything. They are showing who they are and it is deplorable. I am sorry and hope Rich will be OK. ED Evolve Dammit Sep 2024 #16

ditch them Skittles Sep 2024 #17

You didn't do anything wrong. bluescribbler Sep 2024 #18

You have to understand and allow yourself to take in the fact that THEY are wrong. NOT you. onecaliberal Sep 2024 #19

the sooner you stop letting them affect you Kali Sep 2024 #20

Deb, I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. COL Mustard Sep 2024 #21

You've given them too many breaks. Time to write them off. lpbk2713 Sep 2024 #22

You did nothing wrong. Their reactions are about them. Focus on you and Rich and being happy. c-rational Sep 2024 #23

Sorry what you are going through, and while this may sound bad, f**k em JohnSJ Sep 2024 #24

Wish you peace. marlboroman369 Sep 2024 #25

I am so sorry, Deb AmBlue Sep 2024 #26

I am so sorry, Deb Lefta Dissenter Sep 2024 #27

❤️ underpants Sep 2024 #28

Aw deb.... Clouds Passing Sep 2024 #29

Im so sorry Lilithschyld Sep 2024 #30

♥️ 🙏🏻 ♥️ 🙏🏻 ♥️ 🙏🏻 ♥️ 🙏🏻 ♥️ a kennedy Sep 2024 #31

You are one the greatest people ever at DU. I enjoy your threads GreenWave Sep 2024 #32

So sorry for your heartache, Deb. FalloutShelter Sep 2024 #33

I am so sorry to hear of this. It is time to cut anything that interferes with your life out. marble falls Sep 2024 #34

This is awful. MiKenMi33 Sep 2024 #35

So sorry I know what you are going through. Me doc03 Sep 2024 #36

That job - CAREGIVER - one of the toughest jobs in the world! MyOwnPeace Sep 2024 #37

So sorry for what your husband is going through Nululu Sep 2024 #38

Take care of yourself at this difficult time. waterwatcher123 Sep 2024 #39

I hope the side effects don't last long. I would venture to say that you did nothing wrong. Hang in there. LoisB Sep 2024 #41

Cure almost as bad as the disease. malthaussen Sep 2024 #42

I'm so sorry! *hugs* Maybe they aren't worth your time and love? GPV Sep 2024 #43

Sending hugs and healing thoughts to you and your dear hubby. MLAA Sep 2024 #44

Im so sorry, kozar Sep 2024 #45

Sending you warm hugs, Deb Wicked Blue Sep 2024 #46

I'm so sorry debm55 iemanja Sep 2024 #47

So sorry Americanme Sep 2024 #48

You Did Nothing Wrong ProfessorGAC Sep 2024 #49

Families can be so cruel BittyJenkins Sep 2024 #50

I am sorry you have to go through this. You can't change selfish people. Just hold on to those you love a bit closer. Doodley Sep 2024 #51

I am so sorry you are suffering abuse like this from your own family CousinIT Sep 2024 #52

Double tragic when folks that should be backing you fail and add more problems. All my best hugs to You!!! IA8IT Sep 2024 #53

I am sorry about everything you and your husband are going through. HeartsCanHope Sep 2024 #54

I am sorry, I would have replied earlier. I was too embarrassed to answer. I feel better in the day but in the evening I debm55 Sep 2024 #58

Love you, too, Deb. HeartsCanHope Sep 2024 #59

What did you do wrong? dickthegrouch Sep 2024 #55

This is not on you. This is on them! OldBaldy1701E Sep 2024 #56

WE ARE YOUR FAMILY!!!! 💕💖 Niagara Sep 2024 #57

You did nothing XanaDUer2 Sep 2024 #60

This message was self-deleted by its author CountAllVotes Sep 2024 #61