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Buddyzbuddy

(2,512 posts)
71. You couldn't possibly have failed her.
Wed Mar 18, 2026, 07:26 PM
12 hrs ago

Not the person that took her in 10 years ago with the silent promise to take care of her to the best of their ability with the limited knowledge to do so and the person that wrote "But she was the most sweatest, loving little dog one could ever hope to have."

Like most of us who have rescued dogs, unless you're an animal vet, your knowledge is limited by your experiences and advice.
Don't get me started on how many horrendous mistakes I've made with our pet companions but I've learned from each experience that helps each rescued companion that has followed to live a better, happier life. But like you, I carry the guilt of those mistakes and mourned the deep loss of our companions.

I feel great sorrow for the loss you and your family are experiencing.
When the emotional pain has lessened with time, know that Peanut was loved and cared for and knew it. Peanut is the reason you will be better with any future rescues. Thank you for passing on your suggestion. Thank you, Peanut.
Be well, AZ8theist.

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My deepest condolences. sinkingfeeling 23 hrs ago #1
I am so sorry for your loss. BlueKota 23 hrs ago #2
My deepest sympathies and condolences. AltairIV 23 hrs ago #3
Dogs are good people Zelda_Orchid 23 hrs ago #4
The best Dave says 22 hrs ago #22
Oh AZ8theist, you didn't fail her. You did the best you could with the knowledge you had at the time. femmedem 23 hrs ago #5
You did not fail her malaise 23 hrs ago #6
Dear Peanut, cross gently over the Rainbow Bridge FakeNoose 23 hrs ago #7
Crossing The Rainbow Bridge by Stella Violano George McGovern 23 hrs ago #8
I LOVE that!! 70sEraVet 23 hrs ago #10
Oh WOW. What a beautiful painting! Tears beginning ..... Diamond_Dog 21 hrs ago #26
I, too, deal with guilt over the death of my last dog. 70sEraVet 23 hrs ago #9
Rest gently Peanut lonely bird 22 hrs ago #11
I'm so sorry AZ8theist, please be kind to yourself today. JMCKUSICK 22 hrs ago #12
I'm so sorry mountain grammy 22 hrs ago #13
My sympathies to you and your clan. Swede 22 hrs ago #14
I am so so very sorry for your loss. irisblue 22 hrs ago #15
I am so sorry. LoisB 22 hrs ago #16
Lady of the Beasts, please take your little Peanut gently home in Your niyad 22 hrs ago #17
Condolences gademocrat7 22 hrs ago #18
I'm so sorry for your loss. You did not fail her. Phoenix61 22 hrs ago #19
I am so sorry get the red out 22 hrs ago #20
Sorry for your loss. Americanme 22 hrs ago #21
You did the right thing you stopped your friend from hurting but that doesn't stop you from feeling the hurt 2. Botany 22 hrs ago #23
What a beautiful girl. StarryNite 21 hrs ago #24
So sorry for your loss. FalloutShelter 21 hrs ago #25
You did not fail her. kellytore 21 hrs ago #27
You gave Peanut a loving home for ten years. That counts for everything. Diamond_Dog 21 hrs ago #28
I'm sorry AZ8theist 😥 Aw Peanut Clouds Passing 21 hrs ago #29
Deepest condolences on the loss of Peanut. virgdem 21 hrs ago #30
My profound condolences to you. kairos12 21 hrs ago #31
So sorry for your loss, AZ8theist. democrank 21 hrs ago #32
It is hard saying goodbye to a family member LetMyPeopleVote 21 hrs ago #33
So sorry about Peanut. But you didn't fail her. Bluepinky 21 hrs ago #34
Thank you for saying this, Bluepinky EuterpeThelo 8 hrs ago #76
I love everything about your response. Bluepinky 6 hrs ago #81
You may not be a "believer" Mme. Defarge 21 hrs ago #35
My dear AZ8theist, you absolutely, positively did NOT fail your beloved Peanut! First of all, you rescued her! Second, LaMouffette 21 hrs ago #36
Love this, LM. Thanks for sharing and I hope it brings some comfort to the OP. EuterpeThelo 8 hrs ago #77
Very sorry for your loss of Peanut. Prairie_Seagull 21 hrs ago #37
I am so sorry, AZ8theist. My deepest condolences to you and your family. HeartsCanHope 20 hrs ago #38
Oh no, you didn't fail her... róisín_dubh 20 hrs ago #39
You did not fail her. You took her in and loved her for years and years. I know you are greiving but don't please stop ratchiweenie 20 hrs ago #40
Such a sweet face PatSeg 20 hrs ago #41
Peanut was beautiful dog 🐕😍 MustLoveBeagles 20 hrs ago #42
Dear AZ8theist, You did not fail Peanut Grim Chieftain 20 hrs ago #43
rest in peace peanut. i am so sorry for the loss of your fur baby az8theist dawn5651 19 hrs ago #44
Oh, AZ8theist, the sorrow and overwhelming loss you are feeling is the sure sign that your Peanut had the best and KitFox 19 hrs ago #45
I am so sorry for you Scubamatt 19 hrs ago #46
My heart goes out to you. chowder66 18 hrs ago #47
Good advice. And same for humans. Dental health affects the rest of the body... CousinIT 18 hrs ago #48
So sorry for your loss - TBF 18 hrs ago #49
We've been there! Lulu KC 18 hrs ago #50
Deepest condolences SheltieLover 17 hrs ago #51
I'm so sorry. area51 17 hrs ago #52
I'm so sorry for your loss of sweet Peanut. My sympathy livetohike 17 hrs ago #53
Prayers for your broken heart 💔 Ten years of tender loving care gave Peanut her best life so now she can rest in peace Deuxcents 17 hrs ago #54
I am so sorry cate94 17 hrs ago #55
Oh no leftstreet 17 hrs ago #56
RIP Peanut Figarosmom 17 hrs ago #57
Please do not blame yourself. Bumbles 15 hrs ago #58
Please be as gentle with yourself as you would be with a friend in your shoes. pat_k 15 hrs ago #59
so very sorry peacebuzzard 15 hrs ago #60
I'm so sorry for your loss doubleplusgood 15 hrs ago #61
so sorry AZ8theist Skittles 15 hrs ago #62
I'm So Sorry NEOH 14 hrs ago #63
I am so sorry, AZ8theist. It wasn't your fault. May the memories of sweet Peanut be a blessing to you. debm55 14 hrs ago #64
I'm so very sorry stage left 13 hrs ago #65
I'm so sorry! redwitch 13 hrs ago #66
Peanut would not want you to blame yourself and feel guilty senseandsensibility 13 hrs ago #67
Nothing prepares us for the loss of a loved one. 💧💔 littlemissmartypants 12 hrs ago #68
I am so sorry for your loss! debsy 12 hrs ago #69
You loved her, you didn't fail her Raine 12 hrs ago #70
You couldn't possibly have failed her. Buddyzbuddy 12 hrs ago #71
I am so sorry for your loss Wicked Blue 11 hrs ago #72
This was a big help to me the last time we went through this. Abolishinist 10 hrs ago #73
I spent $4,000 on my Chihuahua's teeth BigmanPigman 10 hrs ago #74
I'm so sorry, AZ8theist. We are still not over missing our little guy, Buddy. He was the best. summer_in_TX 8 hrs ago #75
It's normal tp blame yourself in your grief. soldierant 8 hrs ago #78
You loved that dog, you didn't fail it. Give yourself a break, losing a dog is tough enough. dem4decades 7 hrs ago #79
I'm sorry you're hurting JoseBalow 7 hrs ago #80
Very sad Old Crank 3 hrs ago #82
I'm so sorry for your loss wendyb-NC 48 min ago #83
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