Do I risk pissing him off and clean, or do I turn my back and shrug?

[samnsara]

6. hubby and i are the only living relatives of my 85 y/o uncle by marriage..

...my aunt died in April and going to their house was always a joy when we were younger and because our house was always cluttered with crap ( mostly done by us kids) and my aunt always had cute decorations everywhere. Since my aunt died that house has gone to shit..but I REFUSE to clean it. I have chatted with my uncle about getting a cleaning service, and a lifeline cuz he falls. Im the executor of his will and hubby uses his new MBA to work on the finances and bills and taxes etc. My Uncle is kind of a curmudgeon so I dont push a lot of stuff. Like your dad his living situation isnt dangerous YET.

We can lead these old farts to water but thats as far as we are gonna get....until they fall head first into the trough.