Only child dealing with parent that lives out of state

[samnsara]

7. yes! moms all of a sudden crippled..cant even walk to bathroom. dad has parkinsons and is senile..in

..their late 80s early 90s. they are 2 hrs from 2 kids and 1 hr from 1 kid. Mom needs 24 hr care now but unless she goes into a hospital first to be dx to nursing home care, we have to pay for it. Other than being completely crippled now shes not ill enough to go into hospital. So we wait for one or both of them to get sick enough to be hospitalized. In the mean time I drive 150 miles rt every day to assist sis who basically moved in with them. Dad refuses to move into assisted living and hes too senile to understand we aren't just NEXT DOOR. So our lives too are on hold. We offered to help them buy a new home in my town...furnished! In a retirement community. Drove them the 150 miles rt to see it. Dad said NOPE and that was that. broke moms heart. So even when there are some means to help them out doesn't matter if they wont get on board.

I sure feel your pain.....even when I have two other sisters ( and we are all approaching our Sr years)...I know how hard it is dealing with aging parents.


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