Only child dealing with parent that lives out of state

[KentuckyWoman]

6. If she wants to move closer to you....

Your best option might be to pool your finances and buy a bigger house or add an addition, and hire in help that will do some of the work to take part of the burden off you.

I know you said you are concerned it will be too much added to the challenges with your children. The key will be if your family will support the idea or not. If your family is able to have an honest discussion about the benefits and challenges and make an honest decision then bringing her closer to where you live will work with regular tweeking.

If your family can't even have the discussion then you'd do will to let her stay in her familiar surroundings and find her more help so you can make the drive less often.

That's my 2 cents, humbly given after spending 5 years making the drive from Kentucky to Atlanta regularly for my sister. Her last 6 month I simply moved to Atlanta to help her and when she passed I stayed to take care of things. A week before my sister passed, my husband had a heart attack, in Kentucky. We have no children. His sister stepped in thank goodness and took care of him.

It's a hell of a situation and I wish you all the support you need.