Soliciting feedback.

[YarnAddict]

7. Ah, I see. My opinion about your question:

No matter what you think you would do, you don't know what you would actually do if you were in that situation. And you never will be.

A woman carrying a fetus with DS has probably felt the kicking, and has probably connected with that fetus in a way no one else, man or woman, can. No matter what you think--that's something you won't ever experience, and so you can't account for it.

In my own situation, I was diagnosed with Hodgkins Disease in the 7th month of my second pregnancy. I was told that had I been diagnosed a few months earlier, the recommendation would have been that I abort. I can't say what I would have done, because I was never faced with that choice. But I do know, that much as I wanted a 3rd child, I chose not to have one, because a recurrence of my cancer might have caused me to face that choice, and I didn't want to ever have to make that choice. This may sound strange, but aborting a 3rd child because of my illness would have affected my relationship with my 2nd child. I don't think I would have been able to look at him without wondering what #3 would have looked like, been like, accomplished . . .

My friends (some of whom were militantly pro-life) were very willing to tell me what they would have done, but they had never been in that position, so, no, they didn't know.

Anyway, that was nearly 30 years ago, and I have never been sorry, because I know how that choice would have haunted me.

I hope that in my round-about way, I have answered your question.

Again, just my opinion.