Personality Disorder begins PRIOR TO CONCEPTION!!!!

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Fetal Rejection Overcome By Self-Acceptance

Danger and life threat are constant companions for the en utero borderline infant who is always on the borderline of existence and nonexistence. Even so, there may be temporary bonding and unification experiences with mother in the womb. Fortunately, this allows some little piece of the real self to develop. As an adult these events can be re-experienced through certain music, nature scenes, dance movements, and other positive-triggering experiences; thus nurturing the emergence of the real self, even as the unreal self is dismantled.

On the other hand, early emotional and environmental deficits will never be overcome by performance demands and expectations imposed by the superego. You cannot will someone to be happy and engage in activities that a severely impaired person shies away from. Because en utero acceptance never occurred, constant superego exhortations and demands will only exacerbate a sense of unacceptability just for being.

Therefore, the role of the therapist is to reflect the being/accepting self that was never allowed to be in the borderline. To the decimated self of the borderline, the world and the family represent a toxic womb. People are perceived as being toxic because of bad womb projections. Acceptance of the borderline by the therapist at the level of essence and being allows the borderline to accept her or his real self and become free of the enormous burden to perform "normally" in a symbolic, toxic womb environment.