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Atheists & Agnostics

orangecrush

(21,817 posts)

35. Interesting

Reply to UniqueUserName (Reply #34)

Tue Jul 16, 2024, 08:49 AM

Jul 2024

First, I'm not "tithing" anything to a "church" with a right wing agenda. If she does so out of her pocket, that's her business.

We often have discussions of the nature you describe.

They usually go well if I can avoid making her defensive.

I share your belief that people are basically good.

We are a social species.

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So my S.O. just informed me she may be joining a fundy church [View all] orangecrush Jul 2024 OP

Get out. Run do not walk. Autumn Jul 2024 #1

Start packing. flying_wahini Jul 2024 #2

Study the things Jesus said which they don't IbogaProject Jul 2024 #3

They believe homosexuality is a "sin" orangecrush Jul 2024 #7

First of all, they do study those things Zoomie1986 Aug 2024 #45

Thank you IbogaProject Aug 2024 #48

She's a free American. Unfortunately she has made her decisions. LakeArenal Jul 2024 #4

I got into it with a few of them orangecrush Jul 2024 #6

You dont want to go down this road gay texan Jul 2024 #5

Yeah, that's a given orangecrush Jul 2024 #8

I have a sister-in-law in this space for over 30 years. NNadir Jul 2024 #9

Hmmm... progressoid Jul 2024 #10

I suggested orangecrush Jul 2024 #12

I kind of get that. progressoid Jul 2024 #15

Except that's not how it works in reality Zoomie1986 Aug 2024 #46

Have you asked her why she wants to go? intheflow Jul 2024 #11

Best answer, thanks orangecrush Jul 2024 #13

Congrats on your 10 years! intheflow Jul 2024 #14

Humans are infinitesimally tiny orangecrush Jul 2024 #16

Agnostic isn't a religious position. Zoomie1986 Aug 2024 #47

Great advice. I attend a UU Fellowship and multigraincracker Jul 2024 #28

If you like the Red Letter Bible, you might also like the Jefferson Bible. intheflow Jul 2024 #38

Practice kindness. Buzz cook Jul 2024 #17

Great response orangecrush Jul 2024 #20

You don't want to make her defensive, so no more confrontations, they don't work. Warpy Jul 2024 #18

This message was self-deleted by its author orangecrush Jul 2024 #21

Thanks Warpy orangecrush Jul 2024 #23

You refer to this person as your S.O. Collimator Jul 2024 #19

Thank you orangecrush Jul 2024 #22

I grew up in a fundy church. HeartsCanHope Jul 2024 #24

Thanks so much orangecrush Jul 2024 #31

Thank you. HeartsCanHope Jul 2024 #37

I would suggest a gift of 2 books: LT Barclay Jul 2024 #25

Thanks much! orangecrush Jul 2024 #32

Suggest a unitarian universalist church as a compromise? GPV Jul 2024 #26

Possibly orangecrush Jul 2024 #33

let her know you are willing to sacrifice your relationship.... samnsara Jul 2024 #27

Yep orangecrush Jul 2024 #36

Did she tell you MorbidButterflyTat Jul 2024 #29

Discussion was had orangecrush Jul 2024 #30

I would approach the situation from a realpolitik perspective. UniqueUserName Jul 2024 #34

Interesting orangecrush Jul 2024 #35

A thought... HeartsCanHope Jul 2024 #39

I believe the community thing orangecrush Jul 2024 #40

Then I think what you said about riding it out is the right approach. HeartsCanHope Jul 2024 #41

Thank you orangecrush Jul 2024 #42

Did she tell you Faux pas Jul 2024 #43

I was married to a very religious person Farmer-Rick Aug 2024 #44

I can tell you now that your relationship is probably over. Zoomie1986 Aug 2024 #49