Leap and the Net Appears.

[SheilaT]

7. It helps a lot to be an essentially optimistic person.

But everyone is capable of moving on. You're entitled to be angry, to grieve, to mourn for a lost relationship and a way of life that's ended. But after a while you can no longer blame the other person. It is always up to us to make what we can of things.

Many years ago, a young woman I knew who was my age, was furious at her father because he'd just left the mother, and friend could not imagine mom starting all over again at the age of 46. It took me a few weeks to do the math, but my mom was 46 when she left my dad, an alcoholic who was becoming increasingly more abusive. She packed up the five kids still living at home (oldest brother was in the army) and moved us 2,000 miles across the country to start a new life. Best thing she ever could have done for us. It served as a role model for me my entire life.