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Marthe48

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26. People stopped by with meals
Thu Sep 22, 2022, 10:17 AM
Sep 2022

It was very random. All of the food was good, but it was the thoughtfulness. People sent me cards, or little gifts, or texts or emails, or called. I'm ok with being alone, but many widows and widowers like having a meal, or spending some time with their friends or relatives. It might be difficult for her with the holidays coming up-first round is hard on all of the survivors.

If you visit with your neighbor, let her talk about her husband. Even now, after almost 6 years, it comforts me when I hear someone mention him, and if they don't mind me remembering him.

You are kind and thoughtful

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Expressed sympathy, but elleng Sep 2022 #1
Thank you! Jade Fox Sep 2022 #11
Befriend her & listen to her life story without judgment SheltieLover Sep 2022 #2
Thank you so much. Jade Fox Sep 2022 #12
Buy finger paints & paper & invite her over to play! SheltieLover Sep 2022 #19
Interesting! Jade Fox Sep 2022 #21
The more fluid the medium, the more cathartic the effect SheltieLover Sep 2022 #23
Invite her over for meals? SheltieLover Sep 2022 #3
Yes. And include other friends if possible. 3Hotdogs Sep 2022 #8
Thanks so much for your help. Jade Fox Sep 2022 #13
Yes! SheltieLover Sep 2022 #20
Yes. And include other friends if possible. 3Hotdogs Sep 2022 #9
Check on her enough especially in the initial months of her loss. sprinkleeninow Sep 2022 #4
Thank you. I'll keep this in mind. Jade Fox Sep 2022 #14
Lost a boyfriend in my early 20s and found that friends were afraid to mention him. MLAA Sep 2022 #5
After I made this post... Jade Fox Sep 2022 #18
Do you drive??? ultralite001 Sep 2022 #6
Walking together -- great idea. Thanks so much. Jade Fox Sep 2022 #15
Invite her to a simple (not lavish) lunch or dinner where she can talk No Vested Interest Sep 2022 #7
Thank you. Jade Fox Sep 2022 #16
Mow the lawn if there is one Easterncedar Sep 2022 #10
Great ideas..... Jade Fox Sep 2022 #17
Have her over & get her talking about what she used to enjoy doing SheltieLover Sep 2022 #22
Thanks so much. Great ideas here. Jade Fox Sep 2022 #24
I interned at a hospice in bereavement. 😉 SheltieLover Sep 2022 #25
People stopped by with meals Marthe48 Sep 2022 #26
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