I put both parents in a home on Tuesday, long overdue.

[glinda]

6. Exactly the thoughts my mother had before she left us....

But today, children cannot expect any inheritance unless their families have some money. None. Nada. And the parent(s) feel guilty because they may have to use it and they feel they have worked their whole lives to provide for their children. In our case, at least my father has some money in the bank to help for 1-3 years depending.
I wish you strength in this time. It is indeed very hard.