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Boomer

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22. Nice try, but not very persuasive

Fri May 4, 2018, 09:24 PM

May 2018

Age itself doesn't bother me, but the deteriorating body that comes with age is indeed hellish. My mind can't fix what's the matter with me.

My wife and I are in our 60s and we just can't keep up basic house maintenance any more. She's got Parkinson's and knee damage, so climbing ladders to clean out gutters or hammer a nail on the roof are either excruciatingly painful or simply not possible. I've been through open heart surgery and I run out of energy before finishing a fraction of all the chores that are piled up waiting for me.

I DO mind that, but I don't dwell on it. Age matters, but there are other compensations and I try to focus on the good, more than the bad. But it's catching up with us a lot faster than we expected and nothing rubs that in more than hearing someone dismiss that reality, as if it's just a "bad attitude". I'm glad that you've been blessed with older age that isn't hellish, but you are luckier than you realize.

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Pisses me off when I can't do what I used to could. [View all] trof May 2018 OP

I SO agree! The hardest for me is to have to ask someone else to do little jobs like that. Frustratedlady May 2018 #1

Yep Lunabell May 2018 #2

"Getting old sux." Exactly when does that occur? elocs May 2018 #3

Nice try, but not very persuasive Boomer May 2018 #22

I hear you. This aging nonsense is not what I signed up for! nt procon May 2018 #4

I just got aged out of my apartment in Las Vegas pecosbob May 2018 #5

ouch trof May 2018 #58

Mac D very debillitating. Have Miz t set the screws and you drive them. . . . . nt Bernardo de La Paz May 2018 #6

Agreed. n/t Tarheel_Dem May 2018 #7

I know a guy, a WWII fighter pilot, Silver1 May 2018 #8

Badass roscoeroscoe May 2018 #55

Yes, badass. Silver1 May 2018 #60

You'd be very lucky to find a handyman that charged $20 an hour. Ya get what ya pay for. Augiedog May 2018 #9

Made it up the ladder okay. madamesilverspurs May 2018 #10

Yes, every day a new reminder of my diminished capabilities elfin May 2018 #11

Tried bpositive May 2018 #12

Been using threaders for years. n/t rzemanfl May 2018 #51

There's gotta be someone around. Neighbors? Church? High school helpers. I know it's hard FailureToCommunicate May 2018 #13

I saw this on TV recently and said to myself, "Oh shit, it gets worse?". BigmanPigman May 2018 #14

I agree with you, but not out loud. Growing old is not for the weak. marble falls May 2018 #15

I'm the words of the great Betty Davis: Zoonart May 2018 #28

She knew whereof she spoke. marble falls May 2018 #41

Reminds me of a line from a Leonard Cohen song: I hurt in places where I used to play Sampan May 2018 #16

I hear ya' llmart May 2018 #17

Really lillypaddle May 2018 #26

I keep several magnifying glasses stashed around the house.... Ferrets are Cool May 2018 #34

I her ya..........Everything Is so hard to open.... a kennedy May 2018 #37

Husband's grandmother used to say...Takes a steel stomach to live to be old! pioche4 May 2018 #18

Getting old sux? SCantiGOP May 2018 #19

Only up to a point Boomer May 2018 #24

I've lowered the bar lillypaddle May 2018 #31

I know the feeling Boomer May 2018 #52

Agree. Watched my 95 year old mother spend the last year of her life sinkingfeeling May 2018 #43

so much for the "golden years." demosincebirth May 2018 #20

The Golden Years Timewas May 2018 #35

Love this..... a kennedy May 2018 #38

For the record Timewas May 2018 #42

Oh my! Rebl2 May 2018 #21

Thank you for this......i try to remember. a kennedy May 2018 #39

Not shocked, just frustrated. trof May 2018 #59

Getting old is not for the faint at heart. TomSlick May 2018 #23

Yes, it's the "simple" things, isn't it? lillypaddle May 2018 #25

But we can VOTE! EOM elfin May 2018 #27

I remember when the idea Haggis for Breakfast May 2018 #29

Off topic lillypaddle May 2018 #32

Och, aye Haggis for Breakfast May 2018 #44

I hope you'll be on DU longer than a week lillypaddle May 2018 #50

I know....when in bed I feel pretty good...... a kennedy May 2018 #40

I used to get so aggravated Ohiogal May 2018 #30

The hardest thing for me is my mind thinks that I still Ferrets are Cool May 2018 #33

Heh. Try having Parkinson's. JayhawkSD May 2018 #46

Ditto Frances May 2018 #36

Omigod. I wish I could find a handyman who DID charge $20 an hour. JayhawkSD May 2018 #45

i got mini blinds eons ago. finally they stopped working, got twins & slapped them into old fittings pansypoo53219 May 2018 #47

We do have a senior citizens center here in South Grand, St. Louis MO... SWBTATTReg May 2018 #48

I'm sorry. LiberalLoner May 2018 #49

It's not the getting old that sucks, it the parts that WhiteTara May 2018 #53

I was a crabber back in the 80's SonofDonald May 2018 #54

Reminds me of the quote: Bayard May 2018 #56

My township has started a handyman program to help seniors for little money. greatauntoftriplets May 2018 #57