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BoomaofBandM

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49. My mil had a stroke and was in care for 13 years.

Mon Oct 28, 2024, 09:54 AM

Oct 28

My mom was so frustrated for her. My family has strict dnr orders from me. It may or may not help. There is nothing wrong with wanting a loved one out of pain and at peace. it has always clear to those of us the that your wife and your mom mean everything to you. I hope your mom has some peace in her future. Hugs to you and your family.

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Well, what I have wished for, for more than a year is finally here. And I'm so not ready for this. [View all] Glamrock Oct 28 OP

... Skittles Oct 28 #1

I know Glamrock Oct 28 #3

it's hard Skittles Oct 28 #6

Agreed Glamrock Oct 28 #39

"...sometimes life is just too painful..." NOT selfish duhneece Oct 28 #46

the adage "time heals all wounds" is not true Skittles Oct 28 #57

Thanks for helping me understand what Robin Williams MadameButterfly Oct 28 #22

it drives me nuts when ppl use him as a poster child for depression. mopinko Oct 28 #35

That is rough peacebuzzard Oct 28 #2

Thank you! Glamrock Oct 28 #4

That sucks man. Sorry you have to go through that. Eko Oct 28 #5

What a perfectly glorious and comforting message Easterncedar Oct 28 #12

Thank you for this MadameButterfly Oct 28 #23

"The cosmos is within us. We are made of star-stuff. We are a way for the universe to know itself" Ocelot II Oct 28 #42

Exactly what I was thinking watching this...we are made of star stuff Deuxcents Oct 28 #47

I'm so sorry, Glamrock. HeartsCanHope Oct 28 #7

I am so sorry. Just so very sorry. Silver Gaia Oct 28 #8

Get a hospice referral. HappyLarge Oct 28 #9

2nd this. hospice is wonderful. mopinko Oct 28 #36

I am so so sorry Glamrock irisblue Oct 28 #10

I feel for you. Try to be kind to yourself now and in the time to come. Easterncedar Oct 28 #11

So sorry! PortTack Oct 28 #13

No words Glamrock... IcyPeas Oct 28 #14

My dad had Parkinson's with Lewy body also. Dear_Prudence Oct 28 #15

I am with you Cailinrain Oct 28 #16

I am so sorry. Please do not beat yourself up. You wanted her to go for her not for you. Sending you a big hug. LoisB Oct 28 #17

Aloha e Glam. mahina Oct 28 #18

It was my/our turn a little over 20 years ago DFW Oct 28 #19

I know those regrets that you are experiencing and mine were amplified by the fact TexasTowelie Oct 28 #20

You are welcome to vent as much as you need. We are here for you. alwaysinasnit Oct 28 #21

Please do vent as you need to, it will help. Think. Again. Oct 28 #24

My virtual arms are around you, glam UpInArms Oct 28 #25

My dad is dying and my mother will not last MadameButterfly Oct 28 #26

My Dad is dying and my mother won't last MadameButterfly Oct 28 #27

I don't know why this posted twice MadameButterfly Oct 28 #29

So sorry, Glamrock gademocrat7 Oct 28 #28

Strength and Honor. WheelWalker Oct 28 #30

My father stopped eating/drinking mnhtnbb Oct 28 #31

❤️ underpants Oct 28 #32

Please don't beat yourself up snpsmom Oct 28 #33

I'm so sorry. It will be okay. I went through the same guilt when my sinkingfeeling Oct 28 #34

You have been wonderful to your mom. Joinfortmill Oct 28 #37

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We're never ready to lose mom XanaDUer2 Oct 28 #40

Hugs Sea A Chell Oct 28 #41

I'm so sorry. Ocelot II Oct 28 #43

Caregiving is the hardest job in the world. Hope22 Oct 28 #44

Glam, I am so sorry Diamond_Dog Oct 28 #45

My Dear Glam... 2naSalit Oct 28 #48

My mil had a stroke and was in care for 13 years. BoomaofBandM Oct 28 #49

We cared for my father in law 12 years ago mountain grammy Oct 28 #50

So saddened to hear what you are struggling with, Glam SheltieLover Oct 28 #51

Your post honors her long and well-lived time on this planet jmbar2 Oct 28 #52

I feel your pain. AmBlue Oct 28 #53

I'm so sorry. Losing a parent is difficult under any circumstances, and we all cope the best we can. Lonestarblue Oct 28 #54

💔... You are not alone. I'm so sorry for your pain. 1WorldHope Oct 28 #55

Glamrock AKwannabe Oct 28 #56

I'm sorry you are having to deal with this. My wife is going through her last, terrible days. Hassler Oct 28 #58

No judgments, Glam. Schlocko Saturday #59

Felt That Way About My Dad ProfessorGAC Sunday #60