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34. I'm so sorry. It will be okay. I went through the same guilt when my

Mon Oct 28, 2024, 06:33 AM

Oct 28

Mom finally passed at age 96. She had lost her ability to walk and was blind. Unfortunately, her mind was still sharp. She was in assisted living, then fell and broke her hip. I drove to Florida to see her, but she didn't know me. I stayed 9 days and had to go back to work. My sister called that she had died when I was about 30 miles from home. I never shed a tear as I believe my prayers were answered. But the guilt remains.

Hugs to you.

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Well, what I have wished for, for more than a year is finally here. And I'm so not ready for this. [View all] Glamrock Oct 28 OP

... Skittles Oct 28 #1

I know Glamrock Oct 28 #3

it's hard Skittles Oct 28 #6

Agreed Glamrock Oct 28 #39

"...sometimes life is just too painful..." NOT selfish duhneece Oct 28 #46

the adage "time heals all wounds" is not true Skittles Oct 28 #57

Thanks for helping me understand what Robin Williams MadameButterfly Oct 28 #22

it drives me nuts when ppl use him as a poster child for depression. mopinko Oct 28 #35

That is rough peacebuzzard Oct 28 #2

Thank you! Glamrock Oct 28 #4

That sucks man. Sorry you have to go through that. Eko Oct 28 #5

What a perfectly glorious and comforting message Easterncedar Oct 28 #12

Thank you for this MadameButterfly Oct 28 #23

"The cosmos is within us. We are made of star-stuff. We are a way for the universe to know itself" Ocelot II Oct 28 #42

Exactly what I was thinking watching this...we are made of star stuff Deuxcents Oct 28 #47

I'm so sorry, Glamrock. HeartsCanHope Oct 28 #7

I am so sorry. Just so very sorry. Silver Gaia Oct 28 #8

Get a hospice referral. HappyLarge Oct 28 #9

2nd this. hospice is wonderful. mopinko Oct 28 #36

I am so so sorry Glamrock irisblue Oct 28 #10

I feel for you. Try to be kind to yourself now and in the time to come. Easterncedar Oct 28 #11

So sorry! PortTack Oct 28 #13

No words Glamrock... IcyPeas Oct 28 #14

My dad had Parkinson's with Lewy body also. Dear_Prudence Oct 28 #15

I am with you Cailinrain Oct 28 #16

I am so sorry. Please do not beat yourself up. You wanted her to go for her not for you. Sending you a big hug. LoisB Oct 28 #17

Aloha e Glam. mahina Oct 28 #18

It was my/our turn a little over 20 years ago DFW Oct 28 #19

I know those regrets that you are experiencing and mine were amplified by the fact TexasTowelie Oct 28 #20

You are welcome to vent as much as you need. We are here for you. alwaysinasnit Oct 28 #21

Please do vent as you need to, it will help. Think. Again. Oct 28 #24

My virtual arms are around you, glam UpInArms Oct 28 #25

My dad is dying and my mother will not last MadameButterfly Oct 28 #26

My Dad is dying and my mother won't last MadameButterfly Oct 28 #27

I don't know why this posted twice MadameButterfly Oct 28 #29

So sorry, Glamrock gademocrat7 Oct 28 #28

Strength and Honor. WheelWalker Oct 28 #30

My father stopped eating/drinking mnhtnbb Oct 28 #31

❤️ underpants Oct 28 #32

Please don't beat yourself up snpsmom Oct 28 #33

I'm so sorry. It will be okay. I went through the same guilt when my sinkingfeeling Oct 28 #34

You have been wonderful to your mom. Joinfortmill Oct 28 #37

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We're never ready to lose mom XanaDUer2 Oct 28 #40

Hugs Sea A Chell Oct 28 #41

I'm so sorry. Ocelot II Oct 28 #43

Caregiving is the hardest job in the world. Hope22 Oct 28 #44

Glam, I am so sorry Diamond_Dog Oct 28 #45

My Dear Glam... 2naSalit Oct 28 #48

My mil had a stroke and was in care for 13 years. BoomaofBandM Oct 28 #49

We cared for my father in law 12 years ago mountain grammy Oct 28 #50

So saddened to hear what you are struggling with, Glam SheltieLover Oct 28 #51

Your post honors her long and well-lived time on this planet jmbar2 Oct 28 #52

I feel your pain. AmBlue Oct 28 #53

I'm so sorry. Losing a parent is difficult under any circumstances, and we all cope the best we can. Lonestarblue Oct 28 #54

💔... You are not alone. I'm so sorry for your pain. 1WorldHope Oct 28 #55

Glamrock AKwannabe Oct 28 #56

I'm sorry you are having to deal with this. My wife is going through her last, terrible days. Hassler Oct 28 #58

No judgments, Glam. Schlocko Nov 16 #59

Felt That Way About My Dad ProfessorGAC Nov 17 #60