Parenting

Freddie

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43. I don't get it

Mon May 7, 2018, 10:36 AM

May 2018

How some families don't get this pleasure. Good friends have 3 girls now 24, 20 and 18. No midnight calls from the police. No screaming fights, counselors, etc. The worst thing any of them did is the oldest is taking a long time to finish college. They have no idea how fortunate they are.

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I did not mind all the sacrifices but stealing my joy as a mother is beyond cruel [View all] lostnfound May 2018 OP

Do not delete this. Mike Rows His Boat May 2018 #1

I know it is good to talk about but lostnfound May 2018 #36

Have you considered showing this to your daughter? dhol82 May 2018 #2

A boy, would see it as chink in the armor lostnfound May 2018 #7

Teenagers. They get over it. They change. Sophia4 May 2018 #3

please don't delete dweller May 2018 #4

It can be a single dad's lament, too. I brough them up to be brave and independent. And now they.... marble falls May 2018 #34

Whether or not they need you, it's okay for you to "need" them.. lostnfound May 2018 #50

We live all over the country Texas, Missouri, Florida, Ohio. My son (their half bro)... marble falls May 2018 #53

This "all over the country" stuff is part of the problem lostnfound May 2018 #54

And my dad had moved out to LA before I left for AZ. ... marble falls May 2018 #55

Send it to your kid. The worst thing would be for communication to stop. applegrove May 2018 #5

You're a good writer. I can feel your anguish. Bluepinky May 2018 #6

Thanks. The one thing I want to do I cannot do lostnfound May 2018 #35

So sorry. A house on a lake sounds lovely. Bluepinky May 2018 #41

Take a deep breath. And another. missingthebigdog May 2018 #8

I remember all of those lovely things lostnfound May 2018 #32

I read a book once about parenting a student this age. It said that in the senior year pnwmom May 2018 #9

Thank you for being a great mom grantcart May 2018 #10

Thank you lostnfound May 2018 #29

Jesus. The sitting in the car part got me. :_( C Moon May 2018 #11

just say goodbye, wish him well with a hearty aloha and change the locks n t msongs May 2018 #12

nawww. it's a phase. The breaking away from the parent. Demovictory9 May 2018 #17

This just brought me to tears... Pachamama May 2018 #13

We went through angry teenage years, too. Granny M May 2018 #14

Parental camaraderie was terrific when younger but we moved in middle school lostnfound May 2018 #28

Moms understand Olafjoy May 2018 #15

The science fair lostnfound May 2018 #27

A wise woman once said "Parenting is full of little hurts". Demovictory9 May 2018 #16

Little hurts are okay.. edge of a breakdown with no support here is another lostnfound May 2018 #26

Dear lostandfound madaboutharry May 2018 #18

Thanks... lostnfound May 2018 #25

You have no idea how universal this is Freddie May 2018 #19

not an adult lostnfound May 2018 #24

True Freddie May 2018 #42

"never stop doing the things YOU like to do" - great advice Rorey May 2018 #40

Like you MFM008 May 2018 #20

Your moms plants?? lostnfound May 2018 #23

Yes her MFM008 May 2018 #48

I understand. MichMary May 2018 #21

Ready for independence. lostnfound May 2018 #22

You are not alone! Lulu KC May 2018 #30

My dear, I hear your pain WhiteTara May 2018 #31

So many of us moms are reading this and we understand perfectly. Great description of dealing with a OregonBlue May 2018 #33

That sums it up. "Even the sound of our voices" Nt lostnfound May 2018 #45

I wish I had no clue what you are feeling. redwitch May 2018 #37

How old is he? lostnfound May 2018 #46

31 redwitch May 2018 #47

Well, I'm truly sorry and RandomAccess May 2018 #38

I don't get it Freddie May 2018 #43

Please don't delete this. MontanaMama May 2018 #39

This message was self-deleted by its author MuseRider May 2018 #44

Yes a trendy thing now..and a lack of forgiveness, de-emphasizing respect lostnfound May 2018 #49

Hang in there. Life will grind down his sharp edges. raging moderate May 2018 #51

Thirties? Uggh. So if I make it to my seventies I will have some recovery. lostnfound May 2018 #52

They make you dislike them iamateacher May 2018 #56

This message was self-deleted by its author Duppers May 2018 #57

Do not delete, please. PoindexterOglethorpe May 2018 #58

This is such a sweet response, among many other kind replies. lostnfound May 2018 #59

Here's something else. PoindexterOglethorpe May 2018 #60

Wondering where you're at now: Tink41 Jan 2020 #61

I have a feeling you wanted to reply to lostnfound, PoindexterOglethorpe Jan 2020 #62