Need help with adult daughter and her interaction with the family.

[dixiegrrrrl]

1. Start by talking to her the same way you would a rude neighbor or stranger...

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Because you would not put up with that behavior from a non-relative, would you?
Or a friend?
Altho that behavior from a friend would be unlikely, since such a person would not be a friend in the first place.

Plop her down sometime, alone, and calmly tell her you have decided that since she and Jim seem so unhappy around the family, you have decided to carry on without her participation, it is simply too unpleasant and stressful for you and your husband.
You have said her behavior is old stuff, not anything suddenly new. So you have got to change YOUR acceptance of this rude behavior..

And yeah, I have been there, and yeah, it took me longer than it should have to find the words to deal with toxic relative because I had bought into the bs that family can get away with anything because they are family.


Being taken for granted sucks....I learned you can't be a doormat if you are not lying on the floor.