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Cancer Support

tavalon

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14. I need to learn not to be condescending to people who say stupid things

Reply to Irishonly (Reply #10)

Sun Jul 1, 2012, 09:25 AM

Jul 2012

I know they don't know what the fuck to say, but damn it's frustrating to hear that crap.

The best thing anyone has said is, "Damn, you've joined a club that no one wants to join. I'm sorry and please let me know if I can do anything for you". I'm fairly sure her mother's battle with stage 4 breast cancer has nothing to do with it. Actually, that's my gallows humor. I know it has everything to do with it.

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What NOT to say [View all] jumptheshadow Mar 2012 OP

Thanks for saying this Uben Mar 2012 #1

I am in awe of you Irishonly Mar 2012 #3

Thank you so much for your kind words jumptheshadow Mar 2012 #5

Thanks for posting this, Jump Irishonly Mar 2012 #2

Hi Irish jumptheshadow Mar 2012 #6

Thanks Irishonly Mar 2012 #10

I need to learn not to be condescending to people who say stupid things tavalon Jul 2012 #14

Ever got the "Hang in there" thingy? Po_d Mainiac Jul 2012 #15

Who? tavalon Jul 2012 #16

Revolutionary War history Po_d Mainiac Jul 2012 #17

I have the best wife Betty88 Mar 2012 #4

No, you are the best wife :) jumptheshadow Mar 2012 #7

thank you for posting this and all the other responses...this would make a perfect pinned post maddezmom Mar 2012 #8

I saw your post and pinned it Irishonly Mar 2012 #9

You know what else not to say to a close relative w a life-threatening disease? "YOU'LL BE FINE." Nay Jun 2012 #11

Or point out that the biopsy being scheduled for a month out must mean it's okay tavalon Jul 2012 #13

Yes, yes and yes tavalon Jul 2012 #12

Thank you chrismiller8888 Jul 2012 #18

K&R Solly Mack May 2014 #19

Unpainted by author's request dmr Oct 2015 #20

My mom's doctor ignored her warning signs Puzzledtraveller Oct 2015 #21

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