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11. You know what else not to say to a close relative w a life-threatening disease? "YOU'LL BE FINE."

Reply to jumptheshadow (Original post)

Sun Jun 24, 2012, 07:06 AM

Jun 2012

Maybe I will and maybe I won't, for one thing. For another thing, if you say that to me, it feels to me as if you are abruptly relieving yourself of any responsibility to be supportive or to adapt to a new reality; I am forced to adapt to my new reality, but you have declared that you're going to go on your merry way without a care in the world. Thanks a lot.

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What NOT to say [View all] jumptheshadow Mar 2012 OP

Thanks for saying this Uben Mar 2012 #1

I am in awe of you Irishonly Mar 2012 #3

Thank you so much for your kind words jumptheshadow Mar 2012 #5

Thanks for posting this, Jump Irishonly Mar 2012 #2

Hi Irish jumptheshadow Mar 2012 #6

Thanks Irishonly Mar 2012 #10

I need to learn not to be condescending to people who say stupid things tavalon Jul 2012 #14

Ever got the "Hang in there" thingy? Po_d Mainiac Jul 2012 #15

Who? tavalon Jul 2012 #16

Revolutionary War history Po_d Mainiac Jul 2012 #17

I have the best wife Betty88 Mar 2012 #4

No, you are the best wife :) jumptheshadow Mar 2012 #7

thank you for posting this and all the other responses...this would make a perfect pinned post maddezmom Mar 2012 #8

I saw your post and pinned it Irishonly Mar 2012 #9

You know what else not to say to a close relative w a life-threatening disease? "YOU'LL BE FINE." Nay Jun 2012 #11

Or point out that the biopsy being scheduled for a month out must mean it's okay tavalon Jul 2012 #13

Yes, yes and yes tavalon Jul 2012 #12

Thank you chrismiller8888 Jul 2012 #18

K&R Solly Mack May 2014 #19

Unpainted by author's request dmr Oct 2015 #20

My mom's doctor ignored her warning signs Puzzledtraveller Oct 2015 #21

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