My husband is undergoing radiation treatment..

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5. It is common for very ill men to take things out on their spouses. My husband did

this, and it is very disturbing and heartbreaking all by itself, never mind the work that you, the caregiver, are doing while getting verbally attacked for all sorts of completely nonsensical reasons. Medical personnel are very aware of this common problem, so don't think you will be unusual in seeking help.

Does he have a medical practitioner who is shepherding him and you in the whole treatment process? In complicated illnesses, many hospitals will have such a person to refer you to the correct person to help with certain issues. If you don't have such a person, tell your husband's oncologist exactly what's going on. He'll be able to help. Men are famous for not wanting to go to groups, but if the oncologist signs him up he may go. You can go by yourself, if you want. You'll find your complaint is common. You may also be eligible for some home help; is so, take advantage of it to just get out of the house for a while.

Please PM me if you need to talk more.