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busterbrown

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51. Very little you can do at this point... Love her and be an example. But surrendering to this

Wed Jan 2, 2013, 04:43 AM

Jan 2013

horrible situation is a start. You can not save her. She must save herself. If she is destitute
the salvation army might be a last resort. Otherwise find a rehab which will offer free services. They are out there. Most addicts like your daughter do hit a bottom eventually and see a bit of light which hopefully they will grab on to... But do not take blame for any of her actions at all. Al anon could
be a great value to you. Please trust me.....email me if you want through d.u.

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I'm hoping this forum will help...because I could really use some. [View all] fujiyama Jan 2012 OP

The first step is admitting you have a problem Electric Monk Jan 2012 #1

It helps.... Tippy Jan 2012 #8

My daughter is in crisis...She is NA... Tippy Jan 2012 #9

Oh, man, that really sucks tavalon Feb 2012 #27

Very little you can do at this point... Love her and be an example. But surrendering to this busterbrown Jan 2013 #51

That simple mantra tavalon Feb 2012 #26

Your story sounds familiar. cordelia Jan 2012 #2

You are not alone.. Stuart G Jan 2012 #3

I need to find a post that I once made addressing just this issue. Rhiannon12866 Jan 2012 #4

The power of the rooms tavalon Feb 2012 #28

if you can Old Codger Feb 2012 #33

I'm not disagreeing but with my crazy life and a dearth of CoDA meetings, which tavalon Feb 2012 #39

If Old Codger Feb 2012 #40

Well, I guess in one way I'm lucky tavalon Feb 2012 #41

No harm Old Codger Feb 2012 #42

And speaking for myself tavalon Feb 2012 #43

To all who read your response...This guy has got it going!!!!!! busterbrown Jan 2013 #52

how do you know my story? irisblue Jan 2012 #5

iris, your wiccian faith is perfect NMDemDist2 Jan 2012 #7

from page 10, 44 and beyond, how I did it NMDemDist2 Jan 2012 #6

I have to believe in something more powerful than me, tavalon Feb 2012 #29

Do you want to hear the truth? If not, don't read this message. Tripod Jan 2012 #10

You got it Old Codger Feb 2012 #34

I'm glad you get it. Tripod Feb 2012 #36

I too Old Codger Feb 2012 #37

Simple but not easy tavalon Feb 2012 #44

Lurker here Vanje Jan 2012 #11

yes you can sit in the back and say nothing NMDemDist2 Jan 2012 #13

I've found peace in the meetings and I'm very shy cally Jan 2012 #14

I agree with Cally. Every meeting is different. Rhiannon12866 Jan 2012 #15

They might ask if there are any new people tavalon Feb 2012 #30

Me too Fujiyama Vanje Jan 2012 #12

Well just figured I'd check in again fujiyama Jan 2012 #16

Thanks so much for letting us know how you are! Rhiannon12866 Jan 2012 #17

I'm glad you checked back in and did not drink cally Jan 2012 #18

For most people, just stopping drinking doesn't stop the alcoholism tavalon Feb 2012 #31

Seems to me Old Codger Jan 2012 #19

No alcohol for a week Vanje Jan 2012 #20

congrats. Going without drinking is a big deal cally Jan 2012 #21

I totally agree with cally! Kudos to you! Rhiannon12866 Jan 2012 #22

Congratulations! cordelia Jan 2012 #23

There are fantastic groups online tavalon Feb 2012 #32

Thanks for the good wishes and good vibes. Vanje Jan 2012 #24

Your higher power can be your 12 step group tavalon Feb 2012 #25

What I found Old Codger Feb 2012 #35

As an enabler, I have to chose to be different, not only with the addict who took me to my knees tavalon Feb 2012 #38

addict clean in NA monkeyofstick Oct 2012 #45

welcome to DU NMDemDist2 Oct 2012 #46

You've gotten a lot of good feedback since you posted this. jonpaulprime Oct 2012 #47

CON: You must define God. PRO: You GET TO define God dogknob Nov 2012 #48

“Why don’t you choose your own conception of God?” Fire Walk With Me Nov 2012 #49

You're IN DEEP TROUBLE.... and its only gonna get worse .Way worse. busterbrown Jan 2013 #50