Men Don't Recognize 'Benevolent' Sexism: Study

[iverglas]

16. that's the whole deal at that eHarmony board

The men hang around pissing and moaning about how (a) women don't want short men, and (b) women want equality and expect men to pick up the tab (open doors, hold chairs ...).

And vast numbers of women say exactly (b). If he doesn't insist on paying for the first date (the first date is always the hot topic), he's no good. If a man doesn't think you're worth paying for, throw him back! Then they piss and moan about how men won't date fat chicks. I actually didn't know the world was still populated by people like these -- grown-ups all -- until I stumbled on those boards one night after watching one too many eHarmony commercials. I live a very sheltered life, quite truly. Really don't get out much.

On the question of who has more money -- if I were going somewhere with a pure buddy, male or female, I wouldn't pick somewhere they couldn't afford, if I were the one making the money (which I generally have been). Unless I said I wanted to treat them, either just to treat them or so we could go somewhere I really wanted to go. A buddy friendship can't really be built on one person paying all the time, and I don't think a "dating" relationship can really either -- I mean, not one I'd want. If one person has bags of money and one person is broke, eat at home and watch a video, except for occasions when somebody treats.

I just don't think women ought to use the old 70% argument to justify demanding to get paid for, or allowing themselves to be paid for. We wouldn't expect our better-off girlfriends to do it, so why would we expect our dates to? One lives within one's means, not somebody else's.

So ... if you're bored and like soap opera ...

http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/

On the Dating board, you could start with "after sex I get dumped" ... or "women are like cats" ... Ack, I actually don't see one about Who Pays on the first page or two! If I find any I'll report back.