I believe there is room for both schools of thought. I can't see why informing young females that loosing control of their faculties by drinking to unconsciousness could lead to someone else taking control of you. Of course rapers should not rape and they are to blame for the violence. Why provide them an opportunity?
I think we should be supportive of each other as females. Sometimes one can feel ganged up on when, several posters who are familiar with each other, come to a thread and back each other up on a point of view. I'm not sure why it happens but I think it is to prevent them from being bullied by someone they they think is challenging their ideas? So in effect they will do to someone else that which they try to avoid happening to them.
There is a bit of defensiveness and the expectation that any other point of view is an attack, that you could be a man, or a troll. You just have to know in your heart whether you are a feminist or not. You may not find validation here.
Edit history
= new reply since forum marked as read