got in touch with me last spring as he prepared for high school graduation. I met him in kindergarten, when I was part of the SST looking at his unusual behaviors. I'd never heard of Asperger's.
We met to talk about him a couple of times a year. When he got to my classroom in 2nd grade, he had a reputation. 
I noticed patterns in his behaviors that hadn't been brought up at SSTs. I started researching. I found Asperger's.
I went to our district psychologist, who I'd known in a variety of roles for many years, and asked him if I was completely off base. He asked me a bunch of questions, came and observed, and appeared at the next SST. By the end of the year, he was diagnosed and we had some information about how to best serve him. I worked in looping classrooms; I ended up working closely with him through 5th grade, and then I moved out of state.
He found me. He was on his way to college, wanted to let me know that he'd survived high school and was going to study law.
He asked if I remembered him, lol. I told him that I not only remembered him, but that I still carried him in my heart, and that I am still thankful for everything he taught me when I was privileged to be his teacher.
I've had others in the years since, including this year. None of them are "loners." Most DID have a hard time reading social cues, and finding a comfortable place in the social structure, since peers sometimes considered them "weird." Some adapted better than others, but none were "dangerous."
What will be the effect of changing the diagnosis?
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