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Bonobo

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22. Wow.

Sun Jan 13, 2013, 07:36 PM

Jan 2013

Thank you to anyone who voted to keep. I DO think we need some sanctuary too.

I don't think that I ever said that men have a right to sex, I don't think the article ever said it either despite that picked cherry.

In general, I think that men have a right to ASK for relationships and even to pretend to be nice guys to get into a relationship. It's part of the mating ritual. Women demand certain things, men try to comply. That's the way it works. To make fun of men for trying to act in a way that women demand is not fair --whether they are GENUINELY nice according to some disgruntled toe-sucker or not.

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An Ugly Attack on Lonely Males and What it Represents (Beta Male Infighting) [View all] Bonobo Jan 2013 OP

Isn't the whole point of something like "OK Cupid" to put oneself out there as a potential partner? Warren DeMontague Jan 2013 #1

Ah, come on libodem Jan 2013 #2

Isn't the whole point of a dating site like "OK Cupid" to promote oneself to potential partners? Warren DeMontague Jan 2013 #3

Hi libodem Jan 2013 #19

Where did the false flag of "feel entitled to" come from? Bonobo Jan 2013 #4

okay libodem Jan 2013 #5

The idea that Hugo is promoting is bullshit Major Nikon Jan 2013 #7

If "friendzoned" is such an offensive term.... ProudToBeBlueInRhody Jan 2013 #13

And i would add that There is nothing wrong with anyone- of either gender- looking for Warren DeMontague Jan 2013 #24

Sounds like "Hugo" has some issues of his own. Warren DeMontague Jan 2013 #26

hey libodem Jan 2013 #20

No problem. nt Bonobo Jan 2013 #23

Its a confusingly constructed article. Warren DeMontague Jan 2013 #25

The article wasn't aimed at nice guys. caseymoz Jan 2013 #6

The ambiguity in the tone of the article stems from the phenomena I am getting at. Bonobo Jan 2013 #8

The problem comes in with his definition of "dick" Major Nikon Jan 2013 #9

Well,speaking as an epsilon male. Denninmi Jan 2013 #10

AUTOMATED MESSAGE: Results of your Jury Service NYC_SKP Jan 2013 #11

Hmmm. Would similar, enthusiastic defense of the pillorying of a "fat acceptance" blog for women be Warren DeMontague Jan 2013 #15

I think the men's group needs some sanctuary... NYC_SKP Jan 2013 #17

Like I said, that question wasn't directed at you. Warren DeMontague Jan 2013 #18

The people trolling this group for reasons to hide posts are pathetic. lumberjack_jeff Jan 2013 #21

Wow. Bonobo Jan 2013 #22

The guy in the profile seems like an asshole ProudToBeBlueInRhody Jan 2013 #12

He didn't pick the ones that people were ridiculing Major Nikon Jan 2013 #14

I can't make heads or tails out of it, because it's been photoshopped into illegibility. Warren DeMontague Jan 2013 #16

Wow! I will admit that I haven't taken the time to study this particular controversy . . . radicalliberal Jan 2013 #27

There are a lot of axes- that need constant grinding. Warren DeMontague Jan 2013 #28

How true! How true! radicalliberal Jan 2013 #29

Oh, that would never happen. Never. Denninmi Jan 2013 #30

I assume you're referring to Hugo Schwyzer. radicalliberal Jan 2013 #31

Well, really I was thinking in more general terms, Denninmi Jan 2013 #32

I see what you were thinking. There is a lot of that going around. radicalliberal Jan 2013 #33

That is so cool. I love it. Denninmi Jan 2013 #35

The point of the article, I believe, is sexual entitlement. Dash87 Jan 2013 #34

To a degree. ElboRuum Jan 2013 #36

'Nice Guy' #1 - Do you believe that men should be the heads of their households? "Yes." redqueen Jan 2013 #37

Apparently, at this time the point is moot. ElboRuum Jan 2013 #38

Fairly chosen how? redqueen Jan 2013 #39

That's one great thing about the internet. Warren DeMontague Jan 2013 #40

You compared misogynist assholes to overweight, unattractive women... redqueen Jan 2013 #41

If a woman posted on a fat acceptance blog that "most men are shallow shits who only want Warren DeMontague Jan 2013 #42

It's a great question ProudToBeBlueInRhody Jan 2013 #44

And the point isn't that these guys are shining examples of humanity. Warren DeMontague Jan 2013 #47

It was basically a "See....we found some assholes who say they are nice guys!" ProudToBeBlueInRhody Jan 2013 #48

Again, it's this lame idea that there are these defective stereotypical "types" of men. Warren DeMontague Jan 2013 #51

Fairly chosen as per the idea of the tumblr itself. ElboRuum Jan 2013 #43

+1. They feel like they're entitled to any women they want. Dash87 Jan 2013 #45

And again, if you were to read, say, a "fat acceptance blog" where women complained about Warren DeMontague Jan 2013 #46

That statement would be misandry. Dash87 Jan 2013 #49

I think the whole "nice guy" thing is a trope. It's a trope from the end of the guys who say Warren DeMontague Jan 2013 #50