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In reply to the discussion: The penis as a terrorism device [View all]Major Nikon
(36,877 posts)This is hilarious on a number of different levels besides the obvious logical disconnects. Obviously there is quite a bit of hostility on this issue, and not where that poster wants to believe it is. If you have a strong stomach you can simply peruse the threads over at HoF for a proof of this. Out of the first 20 most recent threads, at least 10 of them involve rape and while I'm not going to dive into each one of them to see, I've seen enough of them to know that each one is dripping with hostility, and quite a bit of that (if not most) is directed towards men who aren't rapists. While occassionally you see the qualifier that this hostility isn't directed towards ALL men, it's hard to believe it isn't directed towards most of them when you see the obvious conflations between consensual and non-consensual sexual activity. The sad part is that if you don't agree with their warped ideas about "rape culture", then you are automatically a "rape apologist" at best, or you are effectively a rapist yourself for participating in PIV at worst. As my posts demonstrate, not agreeing with them includes something as simple as rejecting the batshit crazy Judith Reisman's notion that down is up. Of course they deny channeling Judith Reisman also, even though some of them do either directly or indirectly.
I do agree that much of this behavior points to some very unhealthy attitudes towards sex. It's been 25 years now since I've been single, but both then and now I have the attitude that sex should be mutually beneficial. If it isn't, then I just don't want to participate, period. The whole idea that men in general want sex under any circumstances, is just warped. Who in their right mind wants to have sex with someone who doesn't reciprocate? I'm not going to pretend to speak for all men, but I sure as hell don't. It's closer to reality to suggest that most women bring far too much emotional baggage into the bedroom. The joke about men being in the doghouse for one reason or another is funny because everyone knows it's true. What woman doesn't use sex as a negotiating tactic for things completely unrelated to sex? Certainly there are a few, but not many. It took me many years to find one and I came up in the age of free love as well. So why does it surprise women when some men are going to do the same thing as virtually all women do? Both genders are guilty of using sex as a bargaining chip. So what men complain about this? Well, they can usually be found on warped MRA websites which are full of men with bad experiences who are consumed by negative emotions which have translated into misogyny. Not surprisingly you find the exact same behavior with the gender roles reversed on extreme feminist web sites for the exact same reasons. So while some feminists pretend that misandry doesn't exist in certain quarters, reality betrays them.