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shashi

(4 posts)
23. There are 1001 reasons to stop sex...
Tue Sep 11, 2012, 09:46 PM
Sep 2012

I'd say sex gets interrupted quite a bit.

My personal experiences:

1. The guy whom I had been dating for about 3 weeks called me another girl's name. Sorry if that's "not nice" but when you're feeling connected and close, then have that dropped on you, it stops being fun. I guess I wasn't a generous enough person to just let him finish.

2. Another man grabbed at my throat, pushed down, and it got kinda scary. I stopped it, he was obviously really caught up in the moment and was very apologetic, but again...it didn't feel good. We did end up trying again after a little talking.

3. I tend to get massive cramps in my hips with certain positions and yeah, again, doesn't feel good. Need to stop and reposition.

4. I could hear my roommate at the time puking quite violently in the bathroom, and stopped sex to make sure she wasn't aspirating vomit.

Not sure what any of this has to do with the Phallopressor whatever that is, but I thought I'd offer reasons why people wouldn't just say fuck it, let's finish =)

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"Schrodinger's rapist" LARED Sep 2012 #1
Well, I've never thought of myself as a "potential rapist" just because I'm a man. Denninmi Sep 2012 #2
I know for a fact the vast majority of people- men and women- don't buy into that gibberish Warren DeMontague Sep 2012 #5
These "MRA" accusations . Upton Sep 2012 #3
Completely typical of some of them... opiate69 Sep 2012 #11
"Critical Thinking"? 4th law of robotics Sep 2012 #12
D`oh!! opiate69 Sep 2012 #13
Well written 4th law of robotics Sep 2012 #4
I would add a couple things: One, I think Feminism and Womens Studies are legitimate, personally. Warren DeMontague Sep 2012 #8
When you have conditioned yourself to believe that the entire human race is victimizing you... Major Nikon Sep 2012 #6
The Universe is much easier to understand if it's got a giant struggle against a singular evil Warren DeMontague Sep 2012 #7
Speaking of "extremely nuanced definition of consent" lumberjack_jeff Sep 2012 #9
I just wonder where people get this stuff. Warren DeMontague Sep 2012 #14
There are 1001 reasons to stop sex... shashi Sep 2012 #23
That's 4 reasons, one of which isn't exactly 'stopping' so much as switching it around. Warren DeMontague Sep 2012 #24
I guess if consent is withdrawn after sex has been initiated 4th law of robotics Sep 2012 #15
What this all boils down to, more often than not, is an attempt to pathologize male sexuality. Warren DeMontague Sep 2012 #16
Any man who described having sex with women 4th law of robotics Sep 2012 #17
I absolutely dont think that being a Feminist means hating men, i consider myself a Feminist Warren DeMontague Sep 2012 #18
I don't either 4th law of robotics Sep 2012 #19
I myself am trying not to assign nefarious motives or intent to fellow DU members, when possible- Warren DeMontague Sep 2012 #20
That's the thing though 4th law of robotics Sep 2012 #21
it don't take a whole helluva lot to get blocked from certain groups around here. Warren DeMontague Sep 2012 #22
Indeed 4th law of robotics Sep 2012 #25
I swear, "Twisty" has got to be just one big troll ProudToBeBlueInRhody Sep 2012 #26
I'm generally suspicious of any ideology rrneck Sep 2012 #10
Prominent "radfems" now want to tell lesbians how (not) to have sex, too! Warren DeMontague Oct 2012 #27
Wow... opiate69 Oct 2012 #28
"Dildo culture"..? Upton Oct 2012 #29
Apparently, they can act as a "gateway drug" to an actual penis. Warren DeMontague Oct 2012 #30
We can't have that... Upton Oct 2012 #32
Shit... there was another "culture" I saw getting tossed around recently too... opiate69 Oct 2012 #33
Got to start keeping a list... Upton Oct 2012 #34
I'd include "problematic behavior" ProudToBeBlueInRhody Oct 2012 #36
These sad and sorry people live in the same hifiguy Oct 2012 #31
Unreal ProudToBeBlueInRhody Oct 2012 #35
If I were creating a parody of this mindset 4th law of robotics Oct 2012 #38
History's best satirists, hifiguy Oct 2012 #40
So even lesbians enjoying sex is serving the patriarchy 4th law of robotics Oct 2012 #37
Gives new meaning to the oft-used phrase from Stephen King's Dark Tower series: ZenLefty Oct 2012 #39
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