Single Men Hear Their Biological Clocks Ticking (Too)

[davsand]

4. I think that the choice to parent isn't tied to gender.

Apologies up front if I'm posting someplace inappropriate. I do realize this is the Men's Group...



I think that the desire to parent is not tied to gender at all. I know several men and women who have an appreciation for kids, and actually enjoy time spent with them. Those same people are usually the ones who want to be (or are) involved and loving parents. I think there was a time when mens' role in children's' lives was customarily more distant than it it now, but I seriously doubt that was based in anything other than a societal expectation rather than any real difference in the genders and how they relate to children.

I'm not sure I would ever have chosen being the sole caregiver for a child, but I have no doubt that I'd have made it work if it was necessary. I'm equally certain my husband would have managed had he faced it. Gender isn't a factor so much as the desire and willingness to do it. IMO, being a parent is a choice you make for yourself and a promise made to the child. Single parents are just people who are doing the work of two.



Laura


BTW, if it is not ok with you all that I'm in here just tell me and I'll respect that. I just thought the topic looked interesting.