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[lumberjack_jeff]

12. "self help book"

My favorite is "read XYX and educate yourself". If you're telling me what to read, it isn't autodidactic, now is it?

That said, people ARE vulnerable to social expectation, especially when we're children. I really don't give much of a shit what other people think... now, but it's unreasonable to think that it's always been thus.

Example: lots of boys in single gender school bands choose to play the flute.