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[Warren DeMontague]

11. I also take issue with the idea that anyone -men, women- inherently "needs fixing".

That seems a subjective, sort of idiotic assumption.

If people want to change and ask for help in changing, fine. "You need to be someone besides who you are" is an inherently presumptuous thing to say.

I hear a lot about how "men are expected to stuff their emotions" and "men are forced to be blahblahblah", usually from the same gibber-slingers who try to tell us that we are "programmed by the Patriarchy" to enjoy looking at attractive naked women (or men).

If I thought someone was expecting me to stuff anything, I would tell them to stuff it. Apparently I'm real weird because I don't give a shit what other people think nor do I spend a whole ton of time worrying about society's alleged "expectations" of this that or the other.

It's sort of like the "self-help book". Isn't THAT an oxymoron?