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Tree Lady

(12,974 posts)
19. You are so correct
Sun Dec 21, 2025, 10:46 PM
Sunday

And not just losing but watching friends and family deal with operations, cancer, limitations, etc

My close friend just had a hip operation 5 days ago and my heart breaks knowing she is in pain even though I know it won’t last forever.

My good friend and neighbor has pancreatic cancer and is on her third different chemo and courageously fighting to stay alive.

The new neighbors we went to dinner & play with few nights ago had a hard time walking and didn’t drink anymore.

I love to hike and feel lucky that my body can still do short hikes, long walks, yoga and other exercises. I miss having friends to do these things with and joined classes for a few but around here hiking clubs even senior ones are hard core that go much further than I want to.

My friend who got hip operation plans to do pt and hopefully heal enough to go with me, my fingers are crossed.

I have been lucky so far to only lose older family members but probably next year my neighbor friend will go.

This past year especially with Trump, aging and needing to feel hopeful, I have been more mindful and appreciate each day. I am thankful for my golden who is 9 and getting older also.

For many years at Christmas I stayed home, away from family because my husband prefers to stay home, not liking family stuff. I visit my kids and grandkids throughout the year alone. This year I booked a flight leaving on Christmas Day for a week staying with my older daughter and my younger one is also flying in with family and staying nearby.

Merry Christmas and I am glad you are here. I am not close to many here but this is my place, my people I feel safe with and has been for over 20 years.

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I hope you get the gift of good health for Christmas! surfered Sunday #1
And to you, surfered. I wish you good health too. LuckyCharms Sunday #3
I quit smoking at 40. If I hadn't , I'd be dead now surfered Sunday #9
I quit smoking and drinking on the same day about 13 years ago... LuckyCharms Sunday #10
I quit NYE '93 in solidarity with Jerry. quaint 23 hrs ago #37
Health is like the "1" in 1 million dollars. Take it away and all you have is zeros.. I'm at the stage of my life mitch96 18 hrs ago #49
I am 85 yrs old and have out lived 3 husbands and two children and at times it is hard Stargazer99 Sunday #2
How is your relationship with your children? LuckyCharms Sunday #4
My 2 girls are gone but relationship with 2 grandchildren is excellent Stargazer99 Sunday #5
That's the thing...it seems that people we were very close to when younger, even family, kind of LuckyCharms Sunday #7
Thanks for this dear LuckyCharms Grim Chieftain Sunday #6
I think a lot of us need it! LuckyCharms Sunday #8
A very lovely and heartfelt post Lucky. Boomerproud Sunday #11
Thank you Lucky. I have feeling very down about a number of family situations. Your post made me think it is time for me debm55 Sunday #12
Yes, it is, deb. electric_blue68 Yesterday #26
This is so very kind - TBF Sunday #13
A thoughtful, important post. Thanks much. With age many people lose touch with appalachiablue Sunday #14
Spot on! KnR. n/t iluvtennis Sunday #15
That's beautiful. Thank you. Scrivener7 Sunday #16
This has impact beyond what one may think.... sprinkleeninow Sunday #17
You never know! electric_blue68 Yesterday #27
Merry Christmas everyone LilElf70 Sunday #18
Merry Christmas, LilElf70 Grim Chieftain Sunday #23
Scary! Congrats on 10 years! electric_blue68 Yesterday #28
You are so correct Tree Lady Sunday #19
Thank you, Lucky! What a poignant, beautiful message! Like surfered, I'm wishing you good health for Christmas. highplainsdem Sunday #20
Right back at ya! Wishing you peace. Joinfortmill Sunday #21
Thank you, LuckyCharms, for your wise words. MIButterfly Sunday #22
Such wisdom, Lucky. hamsterjill Sunday #24
Thanks for writing this and reminding us all what's really important ... our loved ones! AZJonnie Yesterday #25
TY, and blessings of health and safely, Lucky. electric_blue68 Yesterday #29
Great OP malaise Yesterday #30
140th k7r Niagara Yesterday #31
Just got back from our family Christmas... MiHale Yesterday #32
may you be touched by the angels onethatcares Yesterday #33
And, to you as well, wonderful LuckyCharms! (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Yesterday #34
Thank you for your wonderful post LuckyCharms, JMCKUSICK Yesterday #35
Simply because we are born here, simply because we exist, we belong ❤️🧡💛🩵💚💙💜 Clouds Passing 23 hrs ago #36
Such a good and thoughtful post, my friend! calimary 23 hrs ago #38
i tend to be the one to call. mom said it takes 2 to tango and the person on the other end can just as easly pick up AllaN01Bear 23 hrs ago #39
Thanks, LuckyCharms SuperCGB 22 hrs ago #40
Beautiful flamingdem 22 hrs ago #41
Merry Merry Christmas ms.pamela 21 hrs ago #42
That's very sweet. 1WorldHope 21 hrs ago #43
My parents have passed several years ago, my sister no longer talks to me and has poisoned the remaining kimbutgar 21 hrs ago #44
Happy Xmas to you too, LC! EuterpeThelo 21 hrs ago #45
God bless us, everyone BaronChocula 20 hrs ago #46
And the best to you, Lucky Charms! HeartsCanHope 20 hrs ago #47
Yes, I agree w/ you. Don't wait until Xmas to give a gift to your friend or whomever. Enjoy life, go out and have a SWBTATTReg 20 hrs ago #48
You are a beautiful person, LuckyCharms Alice Kramden 14 hrs ago #50
When you get to be our age....,. OAITW r.2.0 14 hrs ago #51
Lucky that is some sage advice. Thank you. bronxiteforever 14 hrs ago #52
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