Eleven no-contact years after the fact

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12. Wish I had seen this 40 years ago......

We started talking about marriage, and she told me she "wasn't ready to be tied down." (I think the real truth is that her mother persuaded her that I wasn't rich enough, a different story.) We went our separate ways, and eight months later, she invited me to her wedding (to a guy she divorced four years later.)

Long story short, she has inserted herself back into my life since my parents' death, a dozen years or so after her second divorce. I still haven't really come to terms with how to deal with her. I really think there is some mutual love in this, but not sure how strong it is. Complicating it is the fact that we live 900 miles apart.