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dickthegrouch

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55. What did you do wrong?

Sat Sep 21, 2024, 12:14 PM

Sep 21

You decided your dignity was more important than being their punching bag.
That took courage and a belief in yourself.
You are so much stronger than all of them.
While it may be difficult, complete the separation. Restraining orders, with no contact provisions.

You have a new more respectful more loving family surrounding you, whom you absolutely deserve in every respect.

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I am tired. took Rich back to the hospital as he was vomiting and urinating blood on Wednesday. They said he would have [View all] debm55 Sep 20 OP

Very sorry, deb. elleng Sep 20 #1

I'm sorry XanaDUer2 Sep 20 #2

I posted a message on your thread. debm55 Sep 20 #6

(HUGS) XanaDUer2 Sep 20 #40

{{{Deb}}}I'm so sorry you and Rich are going through this. 50 Shades Of Blue Sep 20 #3

They sound cold. Sanity Claws Sep 20 #4

Sometimes "family" is not all that ... TBF Sep 20 #5

I'm sorry you're going through these problems, Deb! Different Drummer Sep 20 #7

So sorry for you & hubby, Deb SheltieLover Sep 20 #8

I am so sorry, Debm. sheshe2 Sep 20 #9

I am so sorry you're going through this. TommieMommy Sep 20 #10

Sending you both so much love and support FirstLight Sep 20 #11

Damn!!! All you can do is hang in there, baby !!!! Karadeniz Sep 20 #12

Admitting abuse takes tremendous courage; it is NOT your fault. The abusers are the broken Ziggysmom Sep 20 #13

I'm so sorry to hear this, Deb Diamond_Dog Sep 20 #14

I'm am so sorry Katcat Sep 20 #15

You didn't do anything. They are showing who they are and it is deplorable. I am sorry and hope Rich will be OK. ED Evolve Dammit Sep 20 #16

ditch them Skittles Sep 20 #17

You didn't do anything wrong. bluescribbler Sep 20 #18

You have to understand and allow yourself to take in the fact that THEY are wrong. NOT you. onecaliberal Sep 20 #19

the sooner you stop letting them affect you Kali Sep 20 #20

Deb, I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. COL Mustard Sep 20 #21

You've given them too many breaks. Time to write them off. lpbk2713 Sep 20 #22

You did nothing wrong. Their reactions are about them. Focus on you and Rich and being happy. c-rational Sep 20 #23

Sorry what you are going through, and while this may sound bad, f**k em JohnSJ Sep 20 #24

Wish you peace. marlboroman369 Sep 20 #25

I am so sorry, Deb AmBlue Sep 20 #26

I am so sorry, Deb Lefta Dissenter Sep 20 #27

❤️ underpants Sep 20 #28

Aw deb.... Clouds Passing Sep 20 #29

Im so sorry Lilithschyld Sep 20 #30

♥️ 🙏🏻 ♥️ 🙏🏻 ♥️ 🙏🏻 ♥️ 🙏🏻 ♥️ a kennedy Sep 20 #31

You are one the greatest people ever at DU. I enjoy your threads GreenWave Sep 20 #32

So sorry for your heartache, Deb. FalloutShelter Sep 20 #33

I am so sorry to hear of this. It is time to cut anything that interferes with your life out. marble falls Sep 20 #34

This is awful. MiKenMi33 Sep 20 #35

So sorry I know what you are going through. Me doc03 Sep 20 #36

That job - CAREGIVER - one of the toughest jobs in the world! MyOwnPeace Sep 20 #37

So sorry for what your husband is going through Nululu Sep 20 #38

Take care of yourself at this difficult time. waterwatcher123 Sep 20 #39

I hope the side effects don't last long. I would venture to say that you did nothing wrong. Hang in there. LoisB Sep 20 #41

Cure almost as bad as the disease. malthaussen Sep 20 #42

I'm so sorry! *hugs* Maybe they aren't worth your time and love? GPV Sep 20 #43

Sending hugs and healing thoughts to you and your dear hubby. MLAA Sep 20 #44

Im so sorry, kozar Sep 20 #45

Sending you warm hugs, Deb Wicked Blue Sep 20 #46

I'm so sorry debm55 iemanja Sep 20 #47

So sorry Americanme Sep 20 #48

You Did Nothing Wrong ProfessorGAC Sep 20 #49

Families can be so cruel BittyJenkins Sep 20 #50

I am sorry you have to go through this. You can't change selfish people. Just hold on to those you love a bit closer. Doodley Sep 20 #51

I am so sorry you are suffering abuse like this from your own family CousinIT Sep 20 #52

Double tragic when folks that should be backing you fail and add more problems. All my best hugs to You!!! IA8IT Sep 20 #53

I am sorry about everything you and your husband are going through. HeartsCanHope Sep 21 #54

I am sorry, I would have replied earlier. I was too embarrassed to answer. I feel better in the day but in the evening I debm55 Sep 21 #58

Love you, too, Deb. HeartsCanHope Sep 21 #59

What did you do wrong? dickthegrouch Sep 21 #55

This is not on you. This is on them! OldBaldy1701E Sep 21 #56

WE ARE YOUR FAMILY!!!! 💕💖 Niagara Sep 21 #57

You did nothing XanaDUer2 Sep 23 #60

This message was self-deleted by its author CountAllVotes Sep 23 #61