Democrats being just a big city party for some groups but not others has already failed.

[MineralMan]

42. Back when I was a young guy who earned little, I still went to those

fundraisers. I did that by volunteering to work at them. Sometimes, I bussed tables, handed out nametags, or did a dozen other necessary chores. But I went. I went and I mingled, once the chores were done, taking part in all of the activities. I was presentable, well-dressed and had no problem with talking to people I wanted to talk to.

Every fundraising function needs workers, and the work isn't onerous nor does it take all that much time. Once you've done what you volunteered to do, you're at the fundraiser and can participate on an equal footing with everyone else. As I used to say, "It's either time or money. If you don't have one you can always spend the other."

For unwelcoming groups, I simply ignored those who were unwelcoming and talked to those who were open to new participants. Before long, my face was recognized as part of the group, and I never missed a chance to make my case - whatever it was. I also never missed a chance to welcome other new people. Over time, the nature of the group and its participants slowly changed. Unless people step up and insist on being part of an organization, nothing changes.

If the goal is worthwhile, the effort to be involved must also be worthwhile. I have never allowed anyone but myself to set my goals, and I take them with me wherever I go. I didn't let others sway me from what I wanted to say or do. I got in there and insisted on being heard and on being part of the organization. I never saw it fail. It always worked.

Finally, if you are willing to lead and make that known, you'll soon find yourself in a leadership position. All it takes is willingness, eagerness and some people skills. Every organization needs leaders, but few are willing to put in the time and effort. If you are, you can do anything you want to do, as long as you're not rude about it.