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In reply to the discussion: 2014 Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Issue Revealed. [View all]Kelvin Mace
(17,469 posts)which I believe is both relevant and academic, but to do so, I must be "clinical" is our discussion.
We can't have the discussion while referring to the words obliquely, but if we discuss the words candidly, we run afoul of some folk's sensibilities. If we apply TOS without relation to context, then we cannot have a frank discussion. See, I assume the "vulgar term" is "cunt" which is universally reviled in most all contexts, setting it apart from other "objectionable" words. But by naming the word, I have, in some folks view, "crossed the line". Some would argue I could have resorted to saying "the 'C' word" or "c*nt" but to me this is not acceptable, as it is imprecise and we sound like we are talking to children. I also strongly oppose giving so much power to a word that we can't even say it or print, invoking the silliness of the "He-who-is-not-to-be-named" effect in the Harry Potter series (for those who have not read the books, the villain, Lord Voldemort, was so feared and reviled than people would not speak his name. The hero's mentor, Dumbledore ridicules this idea of granting that much power to Voldemort).
Now, my point in this post is not to insult women, denigrate anyone, or get banned, it is to discuss human psychology as relates to language (which is relevant to the overall post).
My point is that words are simply words, it is context that counts. You touch on this by noting "the difference between interpersonal, private relationships and a public but anonymous forum", with the imputation that the use of certain words in a public anonymous forum should not be allowed based upon what people claim to be, because it is a public anonymous forum. I respectfully disagree. ANY word or words can be insulting in certain contexts, and no word is "vulgar" in every context.
For example, the following sentence uses NO "vulgar" language:
As he stroked her pendulous limbaughs, he suddenly thrust his hard gingrich into her yielding coulter.
(OK, sorry about that imagery, the brain bleach is on me).
My sentence, using no "bad words" has, none the less, just changed how everybody who read it will think about Newt Gingrich, Rush Limbaugh and Ann Coulter from now on.
Context is everything.