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CTyankee

(67,682 posts) Wed Nov 26, 2025, 03:18 PM Nov 26

I was worried about Thanksgiving at my daughter's house..... [View all]

she didn't indicate that my first husband's widow would be there...

Back story: she was his grad student and they began an affair and I got a divorce. But they got married and I eventually got married. Then he died. This was along time ago.

She is not on the list this year. Maybe she's dead. I didn't ask my daughter. One of my grandkids specifically asked if I would come this year and that made me feel good.

Now maybe I can like Thanksgiving again. I haven't for a long time.

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I was worried about Thanksgiving at my daughter's house..... [View all] CTyankee Nov 26 OP

I'm really happy for you. 🙂 Dave Bowman Nov 26 #1

Thanks, Dave. I hope she won't show up anyway. CTyankee Nov 26 #2

Hope you can go and enjoy it. Holidays are so weird...Sometimes I'm glad I never married and have no kids... wcmagumba Nov 26 #3

Hope it goes well for you Innocent Smith Nov 26 #4

T-giving Day is so fraught Alice Kramden Nov 26 #5

I really want to see my daughter and my grandkids. She has no rights to them! Yet she calls them "my grandchildren." CTyankee Nov 26 #7

That sounds like a hard thing to cope with Alice Kramden Nov 26 #10

She sounds awful. My husband's ex was a piece of work. She was unfaithful and let that be known... 3catwoman3 Nov 26 #13

If your daughter invites her, she must have a functional relationship with her stepmother? maxsolomon Nov 26 #6

She went out of her way to "help" my daughter, always kissing up to her. CTyankee Nov 26 #8

Hope that hasn't damaged your relationship with your daughter. maxsolomon Nov 26 #9

I'm sure she does. But I got a "no fault" divorce because I didn't want my kids to suffer. My lawyer at the time wanted CTyankee Nov 26 #12

Been many years but I know how you feel Tree Lady Nov 26 #14

Let's hope for the best! CTyankee Nov 26 #11