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wnylib

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33. Agree completely. Speaking from experience as

Thu Nov 14, 2024, 12:15 AM

Nov 14

the ex wife of a malignant narcissist.

I am forever grateful to a pair of cops who recognized and assessed the danger that I was in and gave me a stark reality check, along with some concrete advice on how to survive getting away. They did not use terms like narcissism or psychopathy, but they described his behavior in terms that I now recognize after learning about malignant narcissism.

I am also forever grateful to friends and relatives who stood by me in getting away from him. I could not have done it alone.

My ex was never officially diagnosed as a malignant narcissist, but when I later learned about NPD and its various categories, I had a flash of instant recognition. He checked every box.

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This is odd for me, but things are so bizarre, it is hard to even know what to say about it. [View all] NewHendoLib Nov 13 OP

Our Caligula needs daily entertainment dalton99a Nov 13 #1

i too have thought he was closer to Caligula MadameButterfly Nov 14 #41

He takes any slight personal to the extreme BOSSHOG Nov 13 #2

Yup. Trumo is not just any type of narcissist. wnylib Nov 13 #21

Don't the Germans have a word for it? DENVERPOPS Nov 14 #49

You are refering to schadenfreude. wnylib Nov 14 #54

Thank you! DENVERPOPS Nov 14 #55

You can't make sense of bat shit crazy. Phoenix61 Nov 13 #3

No, last time there were actual professionals trying MadameButterfly Nov 14 #42

Agreed. yellow dahlia Nov 13 #4

I often feel like I imagine Joe did in the June debate LSparkle Nov 13 #23

Thank you for saying that. niyad Nov 14 #46

How about DENVERPOPS Nov 14 #50

All those things. yellow dahlia Nov 14 #70

Welcome to our DU family. niyad Nov 14 #44

Thank you. yellow dahlia Nov 14 #69

That it is. It has been my family for nearly 22 years! niyad Nov 14 #71

It is all very surreal. I actually felt that were were going to lose the top spot CentralMass Nov 13 #5

Donnie (and the GOP) have never gotten over the fact that Blue_Tires Nov 13 #6

Oh yes, beyond bizarre. I'm toying with drinking hard alcoholic beverages. MerryBlooms Nov 13 #7

Beyond toying here MadameButterfly Nov 14 #43

"I keep wondering what his goal is..." J_William_Ryan Nov 13 #8

One of the cultists was just on Lawrence O'Donnell's show. Jeebo Nov 13 #13

So never wrong, he will order to nuke a hurricane... Justice matters. Nov 13 #25

Uhm ... Seinan Sensei Nov 14 #27

Because he Faux pas Nov 13 #9

I can relate. Woodwizard Nov 13 #10

About his cabinet picks, it is clear that he wants them all to be as ignorant GoodRaisin Nov 13 #11

He's chosen people who have contempt for the depts ... LSparkle Nov 14 #28

Something tells me Defense Dept guy got eased out of the service Captain Zero Nov 14 #35

You fire generals when you need the military to be loyal to you GoodRaisin Nov 14 #58

I believe he is planning to never leave office. Lonestarblue Nov 14 #59

He's too ignorant to understand ignorance. MadameButterfly Nov 14 #45

You aren't alone! Diamond_Dog Nov 13 #12

Recommended. H2O Man Nov 13 #14

He keeps doing what I expected him to do but MadameButterfly Nov 14 #47

I get it blogslug Nov 13 #15

I think it's like the violent partner in a domestic abuse situation Dan Nov 13 #16

Very true. I was once married to a malignant narcissist. wnylib Nov 13 #24

Congratulations On Your Loss SoCalDavidS Nov 13 #26

Thank you. I am an old woman now. It was 50 years ago wnylib Nov 14 #37

Their are men that make you ashamed of being a man. Dan Nov 14 #56

Thanks. I had help from people, both men and women, in getting wnylib Nov 14 #57

He'll use these carnival barkers to deflect attention from the plundering of the Treasury blm Nov 13 #17

+1 dalton99a Nov 13 #19

Psychosis is the explanation that works for me. 3Hotdogs Nov 13 #18

It feels like some kind of bad joke, a bad dream. Elessar Zappa Nov 13 #20

He is diagnosed as a malignant narcissist or psychopath. kerry-is-my-prez Nov 13 #22

Agree completely. Speaking from experience as wnylib Nov 14 #33

Psychopathy is really a more extreme diagnosis, worse than narcissism. kerry-is-my-prez Nov 14 #64

I've been following Dr. Ramani Durvasula wnylib Nov 14 #67

he's the living embodiment of a troll ecstatic Nov 14 #29

Someone above mentioned Caligula... I second that thought. slightlv Nov 14 #30

Same here ReRe Nov 14 #31

It was probably Putin-planned. usonian Nov 14 #39

A Fox "News" personality for Sec Def??? BobTheSubgenius Nov 14 #32

Yeah. How 'bout THAT one, 'eh? calimary Nov 14 #38

Sadism littlemissmartypants Nov 14 #34

A psychopath often has sadistic qualities kerry-is-my-prez Nov 14 #63

Why are you telling me? littlemissmartypants Nov 14 #66

I feel you. But really, you pretty much just said it. dchill Nov 14 #36

It's his nature and that of all bullies to push limits beyond the extreme usonian Nov 14 #40

Putin wants to destroy this Country KS Toronado Nov 14 #48

He's in a spiteful baby "owning the libs" phase. hay rick Nov 14 #51

He is very vindictive and cruel. lucca18 Nov 14 #52

It's a fricken reality show. poli-junkie Nov 14 #53

Replies to posts too Mike 03 Nov 14 #60

Everything stems from his gigantic but fragile ego Martin Eden Nov 14 #61

The US Treasury haan't been drained yet Ruby the Liberal Nov 14 #62

I do a lot of deleting these days. Write, edit, rewrite -- delete. Hekate Nov 14 #65

It looks like a SNL skit. Unfortunately, it is not. patricia92243 Nov 14 #68